Name: Stanford
Gender: male
Age: 25
Location: Green Bay
I was wondering if you have any suggestions for a homemade dildo?
Do you actually want to craft a dildo yourself? Or is this more a question about what might be readily available to safely bugger yourself with?
If you want to make one yourself, there are several “Make-your-own-dildo” kits out there. You can find them online. They supply you with everything you need to make a latex dildo cast of your own dong. And from that the dildo is made. How fun! But wait, what if you are princess tiny-meat? Cloning your you own willie will satisfy no one, no how. Unless you know someone with a more ample endowment that will lend you his hog for the mold, this is probably not the way for you to go.
A trip to the supermarket might be your next best bet. People have been stuffing fruits and vegetables in every possible orifice for as long as there have been fruits and vegetables…and orifices to stuff. Bananas, zucchini, corn cobs, cucumbers, and well the list goes on and on. One word of caution, make sure that whatever your poppin’ in your pooper is long enough that you can keep hold of it while you are workin’ your magic. You definitely don’t want it to let whatever slip past your sphincter and lodge itself inside your rectum. There’s nothing more embarrassing than a trip to the emergency room to have someone fish whatever you got in there out of you bum.
If you’re the least bit competent as a woodworker you could fashion something pleasurable from a hardwood, like maple or oak. The do-it-yourself craftsman will be able to make the exact size he needs and wants. He’ll take pride in sanding, buffing and curing his creation with olive oil before use.
No woodturning tools? Not to worry. A trip to the local Homo Depot may be the answer. Look for wooden dowels. They come in many widths and lengths. Since doweling is often made of a softer wood, the dildo craftsman will be able to round off the top of the dowel using a rasp with relative ease. But because the wood is soft, he’ll have to seal his creation in a smooth varathane or polyurethane finish. Never, ever insert uncured or unfinished wood. Besides the danger of splinters, untreated wood is very porous and you’ll never get the damned thing clean after the first use.
Another word of caution; some people are allergic to various materials or polishes. So test all materials first.
Here’s a dildo-making project just about anyone can do. Make your own beanie baby dildo. You will need several latex condoms, water based lube and whole dried beans or peas. Take a condom fill it with the dried beans and/or peas and tie off the end. Coat the condom with lube and slip it into another condom and tie that one off too. If you want to be super-safe, add a third condom. The beauty part of using dried peas or beans is that, should the condoms break while you’re pleasuring yourself and you lose some of the contents in your love cave, you’ll be able to eliminate them with ease with your next bowel movement. And there’s nothing toxic in dried beans!
But what if you want something more stiff? Building a dildo out of modeling clay might be the answer. You can find this material at your local crafts store. You can be very creative with the shape and size. You’ll also be able to flare the end of the thing so there won’t be a worry of it getting past your sphincter. Before the clay dries, consider pressing dried beans into the shaft for some added texture. Once your new phallus is completely dry you can finish it with a polyurethane seal. However, I encourage you to use a condom over your newly created cock substitute. Even with a sealed dildo like this one.
Name: Heidi & Werner
Gender: couple
Age: 32 & 34
Location: Arizona
My husband and I have been married for 12 years, we love each other very much. About five years into our marriage, while on a retreat for couples, we discovered we are both bisexual. As a consequence we gave each other permission to explore our same-sex interests. For the most part this has worked out really well. At this point in our marriage, however, we’d like to move beyond the casual semi-furtive affairs we’ve been having and embrace polyamory. Problem is we don’t know any other people who are living in successful polyamorous relationships. Is polyamory a viable option even for a few lucky souls?
Congratulations on living a successful marriage, especially since you guys are taking such a non-traditional approach. That can’t be easy. I wish there was a way the two you could bottle whatever it is that you apparently have in spades that allows you to make such an honest assessment of yourselves and your marriage. You must be remarkable people. I’m so glad that you took the time to write.
As a matter of fact, I know a bunch of very successful, long-lasting polyamorous relationships. Most are comprised of people already on the sexual fringe — queer folk, currant and former swingers and kinksters. However, they all tend to keep the dimensions of their relationships relatively private. It takes a lot of psychic energy to live polyamorously, exponentially more than in a traditional marriage. This tends to leave less psychic energy for flying in the face of the popular culture. Of course the down side of this is there are, as you suggest, few good public role models for polyamory.
Connecting with other like-minded people is less of a challenge these days than in years past thanks to the marvels of the internets, don’t cha know. And being bisexuals, as you are, my make things even easier. I suppose you know this already, but for those in my audience who don’t, polyamory is not the same thing as swinging. Swinging is more about recreational or sport sex; partners having consensual casual sex with others, either other couples or individuals. Swinging is also generally a heterosexual phenomenon. Female bisexual behavior is allowed and even encouraged. The same cannot be said about male bisexual behavior. This seems like an unfortunate double standard to me, but in this respect swinging reflects traditional sexual mores.
Polyamory, on the other hand, connotes more of an emotional bond, a 
relationship that exceeds pure sport fucking. But not surprisingly many polyamorous relationships evolve from more casual swinger connections. So let’s not knock that.
If you both are seriously into polyamory you’ll have an easier time of it too. The downfall of many budding polyamorists has to do with the reservations one or another in the couple may have about the lifestyle. The one with reservations may play along for a while thinking that this new venture will grow on him/her, but it doesn’t. Some folks are monogamous and it’s breed in the bone. Others are non-monogamous, equally breed in the bone. Trying to convert one or the other to an alternative way of thinking is simply not gonna happen.
The big bugaboo in any type of relationship will be jealousy. You guys seem to have avoided that poison, and again congratulations. The couples retreat you mentioned my have provided you the communication tools you needed to open yourselves to one another in an honest and forthright way. These communication skills will be particularly useful in forming polyamorous relationships too. Whatever the configuration of your future relationships, all parties must allow for and invite an honest and open exchange about passions, desires and needs. And from time to time each individual in the polyamorous relationship will prioritize these things differently. Expect lots of diversity. For more about this see my friend, polyamorous proDOM, Mistress Matisse’s column HERE!
There’s no “one way” to be polyamorous. Some people express their polyamory by having one primary partnership with one or more satellite relationships. They prefer monogamy with one partner but have an open relationship with others. Some polyamorists live in triads or loosely structured groups. Some people express their polyamory by having all partners and lovers as part of an extended family— raising kids together and taking care of elders together. Strong polyamorous relationships carried a number of my closest friends through the worst of the AIDS crisis in the mid 80’s. While you guys seem pretty clear on what you want for yourselves, you may want to be on the lookout for potential partners with incompatible passions needs and desires.
As we all know, a big part of effective communication in a relationship is exploring and expressing feelings. Another part, one that is often overlooked, is the art of negotiation. How do partners and lovers negotiate for what they need and want? “I want to try something new with someone new.” “My lover and I need some private time.” Mature people are flexible, but they also have healthy boundaries. Giving your partner the freedom to share him/herself intimately with others as he/she desires is easier when it is based on the guidelines that you and your partner agree to first. Of course these will need to be readjusted from time to time as new situations evolve.
A secret to successful polyamory is working to maintain a strong primary partnership, in your case, with each other. The more comfortable and secure you guys are with one another, the easier it will be for you to free one another up for others. When the primary relationship is healthy and safe, the polyamorous relationship will add to the support structure, not diminishes it. 
Interestingly enough, not all polyamorous relationships are sexual in nature. For example, one person in the group relationship may have a sexual connection with another, while that person enjoys a platonic relationship with that someone else.
One thing for certain, you guys will have to decide what sort of people will be positive additions to your lives. And that will entail a good deal of trial and error. Like my daddy always used to say, “ya gotta walk through a lot of manure before you find the pony.” Remember not everyone who aspires to polyamory is capable of it, nor is everyone one who is capable of being polyamorous suited to be with everyone else who is.
For more about this timely topic I refer you to the two podcasts I did with the insanely marvelous Cunning Minx of PolyWeekly. Look for them HERE and HERE!
Good luck ya’ll
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Hey sex fans,
Holy cow, it’s another milestone, sex fans! This week’s show marks my third anniversary of podcasting. 
I know! Isn’t that fuckin great? I mean who would have guessed that we’d have such a long run.
And what a year it has been too. I launched two podcast series last year — the Sex EDGE-U-cation series and the SEX WISDOM series, both of which appear on Wednesdays. The Erotic Mind podcast series, which is nearly two years old, continues to shares Mondays with my traditional Q&A podcasts like today’s show.
As usual, I have a very hot load of oh so stimulating questions to start year #4 off with a bang. And I have a feeling that a few close friends will drop by to say howdy too.
- Jesse want to know if he can test dirty from swallowing a meth-head’s nut.
- Terri has yet to cum.
- Mariah is a cock in a frock, but he wants to quit.
- Miguel can’t keep it up.
- Andrew is keeping all his hot monkey love to himself.
- Some chick from Boston wants to know about boners and butt sex.
BE THERE, OR BE SQUARE!
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That’s right, sex fans, now it’s so easy to see what hot and what’s not in the world of adult products. I review of all kinds of adult related goodies — sex toys for sure, but also condoms, lubes, herbal products, fetish gear as well as educational and enrichment videos. DON’T MISS A SINGLE ONE!
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Hi Dr Dick,
Happy (belated) New Year! I have two questions for you:
1. I am taking a long time to cum when I’m given a blowjob or hand job and eventually I need to stroke off on my own (for a pretty long time as well). However, I cum pretty quickly when I masturbate while watching porn. Am I masturbating to porn too much? I have also masturbated to porn for years before I started having sex recently (I’m not sure whether this could be a reason as well).
2. You mention that we shouldn’t use soup while cleaning our anus. Why is that so? I just read about douching but I have been cleaning my anus with warm water, soap, and finger. Is that ok?
Thanks in advance! — Ken
Can’t hardly say if you are masturbating to porn too much. I mean, what is too much anyway? And since you don’t go into detail; I’ll let that issue rest.
What I can tell you is that partnered sex, regardless of the activity (blowjobs, hand jobs or 
full-on fucking) is a whole lot different than solo sex (with or without porn). I can also assure you that your body has become sensitized to your particular grip and stroke over the years of you pullin your own pud. Another person’s grip and stroke (pussy or asshole) will rarely satisfy in the same efficient manner. This is not a bad thing, necessarily, but you do have to keep that in mind. And perhaps your sexual response will change with time as you enjoy more and varied partnered sex.
In terms of you taking too long (whatever that means) to cum when you are with a partner, maybe you need to quit trying so hard to get off and lay back and enjoy the sensations you’re getting from your partner. And here’s a tip; use your biggest sex organ, your brain, to replay some of that hot porn action in your head while you are gettin head. That will surely hasten things along, if ya know what I mean.
In terms of your next question about keeping your hole clean; you may have misunderstood previous comments I’ve made about anal douching. Soap and water is the preferred method of keeping the outside of your ass clean. And while you’re scrubbin’ your crack, you could use your fingertip to clean out your rosebud. But don’t force soap beyond your sphincter. You have delicate membranes in your rectum that will be irritated by the soap, even a mild soap.
If you need to douche, I suggest a solution of a few drops of lemon juice in warm water. Some men prefer the convenience of a shower bidet.
Name: Mike P
Gender: Male
Age: 25
Location: Los Angeles
My girlfriend needs to watch lesbian porn to get off and sometimes kicks me out of the bedroom to masturbate by herself. Initially I was turned on by her desire to watch porn — but now — it’s become a blockage. She always needs porn. I am frustrated and to make things worse — she has started abusing me through financial manipulation. I have to pay her rent — pay for her food, pay everything — and she never gives me nookie.
Should I leave this woman?
Time to wake up, fella! Your “girlfriend” — and I use that term very loosely — is decidedly 
not YOUR girlfriend, and possibly not any man’s girlfriend. I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and say; I think your “girlfriend” is a certifiable, died-in-the wool, muff-divin’, coochie-lovin’ lesbiterian. All that remains for her to do, to make the picture perfectly clear…even for you, is to show up one day in a mullet and a flannel shirt. Holy cow, Mike, how is it that you are missing the obvious?
Listen, bub, you’re excess baggage. Your “friend” keeps you around for comic relief…oh and to foot the bill.
Should you leave this woman; you ask. Honey, she’s beaten you to the punch on that one. She’s long gone and done left you way behind, at least emotionally and sexually. All you need to do is find the door, say good-bye to this sorry situation and make a hasty exit.
Name: Michelle
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Location: Canada
Tips to help when the man you’re sleeping with has a small penis.
Tips? No pun intended, I hope.
Ok, here goes — Tip #1, grin and bear it. Tip #2, find a guy with more pork. Tip #3, get a dildo. Tip #4, find a sexual position, like doggie style, that will make the most of every little bit of pecker the poor guy’s got. Tip #5, remember it ain’t always da meat, but it is always da motion.
Ok, seriously I do have a couple of suggestions beyond the flippant ones I just mentioned. For example, Tip #3 still stands. Find yourself a dildo, one that your partner can wield when he’s around. If you introduce the concept in a positive way, you may find that Mr. Mini-meat will go for it big time. You see, most guys with small endowments already know they may have a problem satisfying some women (or men for that matter). But most guys, regardless of cock size, are always interested in pleasuring their partner, even when it’s not with their own magic wand.
May I suggest that you check out the swell array of dildos available at Dr Dick’s Stockroom? You’ll find a link to this treasure trove on the top of this page. Hey, you may even want to shop online together. You may be surprised at the one your guy picks out for you.
While you lovebirds are checking out the dildo section at Dr Dick’s Stockroom, take a moment to search for a Cyberskin Penis Extension.
You’re gonna love this. The new Cyberskin line of products represents a significant advance in pecker extensions that feel like the real thing. The rubber on the surface of this extension feels hauntingly like human skin. But the inside part of the (1.5″ or 3″) extension is much firmer. It is soft and supple on the surface, but hard and rigid inside. Mmmm, hard and rigid!
Visually, the shape, texture, and coloration of these extensions are designed to create a 
realistic effect as well. They look realistic and they feel realistic.
There’s a trick to putting on one of these puppies, don’t ‘cha know. You roll up the sleeve until it’s all the way up around the extension. Then place it against the head of your guy’s stiff dick. Roll the bugger down snugly around his unit, sealing his peanut inside the sleeve. A partial seal will form, helping keep the extension on during the fuck-fest.
Wearing this extension will add both length and thickness to his precious willie. It will of course reduce the sensation in his cock, but that’s not always bad thing. Guys with a short fuse may find the decrease in stimulation an aid to controlling his ejaculation, while he’s giving more and longer pleasure to his partner. And a lot of guys love the feeling of having their cock sealed inside the rubbery sleeve. Mmmm, sealed inside rubbery sleeve!
Name: Jack
Gender: Male
Age: 42
Location: Milwaukee
I’ve been dating this guy for over a year. He is the love of my life. I love him so much, but he treats me like shit. I met him on vacation in Florida. He’s 26 a stunning, 6’3” 200lbs, blond surfer Adonis. And excuse me for being so graphic; he has the biggest dick I’d ever seen. The first time we had sex I saw stars. He filled me up like no other person has.
When I got home we exchanged emails nearly every day and even had some hot phone sex a couple of times. He was down on his luck, because he lost his barista job for coming to work stoned too many times. I know I shouldn’t have, but I invited him to come live with me. I flew him up, but I told him that this wouldn’t be a free ride, he’d have to stop smoking so much dope and get a job and he agreed.
The sex was fantastic for the first couple of months, but once he established himself as a star at the gym he found his own friends and now I don’t see too much of him. He eats my food and drinks my liquor and drives my car. I pay for his cloths and gym membership. He has yet to find a job.
I know I should just end it, but I love him and I would really miss the sex. My friends ridicule me for thinking he loves me as much as I love him. They tell me they know he sees other guys. I’m so turned around I don’t know what to do.
Like my momma always used to say: if it’s got wheels or a dick, you know you’re gonna have problems with it. And I would add, if it’s got big wheels or a big dick you know you’re gonna have BIG problems with it.
Before we turn our attention to your no good boyfriend, let me make a few quick 
observations about you. You’re a freakin’ mess, girlfriend! I mean really, you’ve broken all the cardinal rules about dating a hustler. I know, I can hear you now…oh no Dr Dick, he’s not a hustler; he’s a good kid who’s just down on his luck and I’m just trying to help. Bullshit!
Ya see, that’s the first cardinal rule of dating a hustler is never lose sight of the fact that he’s a hustler and you’re his john. Don’t get me wrong; I have the deepest admiration for hustlers and their johns. It’s just that this arrangement only works if everyone is clear about the ground rules. And here are the ground rules — rich older gentleman connects with needy younger hunky stud for mutual benefit. Rich older gentleman keeps needy younger hunky stud in room and board, booze, cloths, car, gym membership and the like; and needy younger hunky stud buggers rich older gentleman senseless with his big blond surfer-boy dick. Get it? Got it? Good!
Second cardinal rule — what happens on vacation should stay on vacation. Vacation sex, as wonderful and delicious as it may be, does not transplant very well to your non-vacation life. You’re more likely to have success transplanting a delicate tropical orchid to your Milwaukee backyard than transplanting a vacation hustler fuck to your work-a-day world back home.
Third cardinal rule —don’t try to gloss a perfectly fine, fully functional and even an affectionate hustler/john relationship with talk of love. It’s unnecessary, unseemly and untrue. It’s lust, it’s limerence, it’s love sickness, whatever…it’s just not love. Because LOVE don’t ever make you feel as bad as you’re feelin’. Probably your friends would have less difficulty with your mooning over this guy if you were more honest about the nature of this relationship. They wouldn’t be rubbing your face in the evidence that surfer-boy is pluggin’ other dudes.
Fourth cardinal rule — a size queen, like you Jack, should admit that you are enamored with the guy hose and how it fills you up plain and simple. To pretend that you would string yourself out like this for a guy with tiny meat is just that — pretense. Listen, there’s nothin’ wrong with bein’ a size queen, it’s the dishonesty I object to.
How is this young fella ever supposed to respect you when you don’t respect for yourself? He probably had you pegged (no pun intended) back on the beach in the sunshine state. He knows you will tolerate his misbehavior, which of course gives him permission to do whatever he feels like doing whenever he feel like doing it. And now he don’t even have to give up the occasional mercy fuck any more, even though that was surely part of the deal at the get go, right?
So the waif has yet to find a job after a year, huh? Why is that not surprising? But even a hustler needs his mad money, besides what is doled out to him by his long-suffering john. I’d be willing to guess Mr. surfer dude is turning tricks to keep himself in weed and other essentials.
Thing is, this fellow probably would have treated you better if you would have just stuck to the hustler/john script. Ya see, kids like this need structure. He may have looked to you for this at one time, but when he realized that he had you cock-whipped, the teachable moment evaporated. This lad is probably like most other boys with big dicks. They learn early on that their cock gives them enormous power, because it is the object of desire for so many. He soon discovered that you were no different than all the other men (and some women) in his life — only interested in owning a piece of his sizeable endowment. And so he turned the tables on you. You can hardly fault the guy. You try to manipulate him with your money. He outwits you and manipulates you with his johnson.
If you’re really serious about reining in the little monkey, you’d better come up with a clear, unambiguous message about what you will and will not tolerate. And it better be something more than “I expect you to bone my scrawny middle-aged ass on occasion.” Because, until you do, he will roam wherever and whenever he wants.
There are many root causes for his behavior, just like there are many root causes for your behavior. But since I’m talking to you, not him, I suggest that you get to the bottom of all of this by investing a good deal of time and energy with a competent sex-positive therapist. There’s one thing I can say for certain, if the status quo continues your resentment will boil over one day and there will be violence, the kind of violence that you may not think yourself capable of now. But violence there will be; you can bank on it!
Is there enough goodwill between the two of you to resolve this unfortunate situation amicably? Who knows! If I had to guess, I’d say there was a slim to no chance for that. If that’s the case, I advise you pack him up and put him on the next plane south. And no more relationships for you, particularly with unemployed young men with massive schlongs, till you get your head screwed on tighter.
Good Luck ya’ll
Hey sex fans,
This is our special end of the year show. We’ll be taking two weeks off for our well-deserved annual holiday break. Today we have a bunch of Q&A, a little sexual enrichment programming and my 2009 tribute to all the wonderful guests that have graced this year’s podcasts in The Erotic Mind series and the Sex EDGE-U-cation series.
Among today’s correspondents are:
- Bottom Wannabe is a dirty fuck.
- Alvaro only dribbles; he does not shoot.
- Marcus is freaked out by his own dick!
- We also have a bunch of cock and ball questions.
- I’m asked my thoughts on circumcision.
- And what I think are the key ingredients for a healthy, happy sex life.
See a slideshow of all my wonderful guests for 2009.
Click on the thumbnails below.
BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.
Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!
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Hey sex fans,
We’ll be winding up the year with our traditional Q&A format. For the few weeks that remain 
before our well-deserved annual holiday break I’ll be addressing the concerns of the sexually worrisome that come to me as email and voicemail. And if we have the time, we’ll be discussing everyone’s favorite topic; sex toys. The Erotic Mind series will resume in the New Year with a slew of new and interesting erotic artists and authors who will share their work with us and discuss their creative process.
Among today’s correspondents are:
- Jake wants to invite his straight male friends to a circle jerk.
- Dennis can’t get his GF to blow him, or even jerk him off.
- Tyler wants to know how to do a DP.
- Uncircumcised Guy wants to get cut now that he’s an adult.
- Anonymous wants to know what drips out his ass after gettin pegged.
- We have a handjob question as well as some ass play and prostate questions.
BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
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Tomorrow, Tuesday, December 1st is World AIDS Day. To commemorate this occasion, SEXIS — the brilliant e-magazine that is lighting up the net — will be presenting an unprecedented weeklong series of essays, memoirs, personal reflections and video.
They call this The World AIDS Day Project. And I am honored to kick off this series, today, November 30th with my essay “Human Rights, Sexual Rights and World AIDS Day”. Be sure to look for it.
Later in the week look for other insightful and poignant columns by some of the best and brightest writers on the net. “Anatomy of an AIDS Activist”; “Learning Out Loud”; “Boogeyman Logic—A Requiem for Matthew”; “AIDS through My Days”; “AIDS Really Isn’t That Funny”; “Live Through This: Can Gay Rights Be Gained via HIV?”; and “No Dominion”.
SEXIS will also present a video montage filmed at The AIDS Service Center, NYC — Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3.
Again, this week of dedicated articles and essays begins, Today, November 30th and runs through Friday, December 4th. Don’t miss this people!
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Hey sex fans,
I guess everyone is enjoying The Erotic Mind
series as much as me. So yeah for that! 
Apparently you love to listen to my chats with these brilliant artists and authors as much as I enjoy interviewing them. But while I’m busy doing that, my in-box and voicemail gets clogged with messages from the sexually worrisome looking for advice. And ya know what? They’ve come to the right palace; and so have you. Today’s show is all Q&A.
So make yourself comfortable it’s gonna be a very interesting ride.
- Giggles says she’s gettin off on Joy.
- Anonymous wants to learn how to blow himself.
- Celia thinks her clit is too little.
- Deborah wants the low-down on open relationships!
- Then there’s a whole bunch of quickies.
BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.
Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!
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Hey sex fans,
More Q&A today with the bonus links to my HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY (see the VOD tab at the top of the page?) that will further educate or enrich the person who is asking the question.
Think of it as at HOMEWORK or further study on the topic at hand. I hope all of you will benefit from this terrific instructional and enriching resource. (Click on the images below for viewing information.)
Name: Ramish
Gender: Male
Age: 19
Location: UK
I’m nervous about having sex? I have been masturbating since I was 11, but I can’t work up the courage to try it with anyone else. I don’t even know if I’m gay or straight. How do I get over being so nervous?
Holy cow, that is nervous. I suggest that you begin by taking stock of yourself — physically, emotionally and sexually. I’m gonna ask you some questions and you can take all the time you need to ponder your answers. Here’s a tip, write these down; and if you have difficulty answering any of them ask a buddy for his or her input.
What’s your best physical asset? Do you think of yourself as attractive in a sexual sort of 
way? If not, what could you do to spruce things up a little? Listen, the more comfortable you are in your own skin, the more confident you’ll be in connecting with other for sex and relationships. If you know yourself well enough to know your best assets, you’ll be able to put your best stuff forward, right?
What do you find sexually attractive about others — both women and men? Chances are that if you haven’t already discovered if you are straight or gay, you might be bi.
When you masturbate, what goes through your head? What are your sexual fantasies? Do you fantasize about sexual situations with others? Anything in particular? Anyone in particular?
When you say you are nervous about sex; does that have to do with possible rejection? Or is it more to do with performance — ya know, not knowing what to do once the situation arises, so to speak? Is there anyone you feel safe enough with, a pal perhaps, you could talk this through with? If you feel emotionally safe, or safe from potential shame and humiliation with this person, it might be easier to open up him or her. Just remember, everyone’s been were you are at one point in his or her life.
Are you comfortable with being nude, at least by yourself? Lots of people aren’t. Are you able to admire yourself in the mirror without comparing yourself to the unrealistic expectations about the human body that comes to us from the popular culture? If you are not comfortable with being naked, think about the reasons why you’re not. Again, if it’s body image issues, maybe you need to get in better shape, or just let go of your idealized notions about physical attractiveness.
Do you know about contraception and sexually transmitted infections? If you don’t, you’re not ready to have sex with anyone else. Do your homework. Know what you need to ask a prospective partner in terms of contraception and STIs before an encounter.
OK, so you’re familiar with pleasuring yourself. That’s a good start. Would you know how to pleasure a partner? If you’re not sure, I suggest that you do some research. There are all kinds of instructional videos out there. In fact, you’ll find just about everything you are looking for at DR DICK’S HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY.
One thing to remember, the best sex is a mutually satisfying experience. You and your potential partners are different people, with different desires, interests, personality and fantasies. Despite everything you might learn from an instructional video, there is no substitute for asking your partner what he/she likes. You’ll need to be able to respond in kind too. Being able to communicate your needs and desires is absolutely essential for a happy, fun-filled fuck.
Are you a good kisser? Do you know how to touch someone else without it being an invitation to sex? Do you know how to be affectionate, to be close and playful with someone simply for joy of it? I always suggest to my young clients that they learn how to give a good back rub or foot massage. Nonseductive touching is as important as knowing how to touch someone sexually. It’s also how some of the best sex play begins.
Are you making yourself available for a sexual connection? Nowadays the opportunities for connecting with others for companionship and/or sex abound. You don’t have to be aggressive in your pursuit, but it ain’t gonna fall in your lap either.
What would it take for you to feel comfortable initiating sex? This is, of course, the follow-up step to putting yourself out there. I realize this can be a bit intimidating, but you’re gonna have to push through this, pup. Think about why initiating sex or accepting an invitation to be sexual is difficult for you.
Are you able to be a good friend? The best sex is more than bumping parts. It’s a full human-to-human connection. If you know how to be a good friend, you’re more than half way there to being a good lover. There are all kinds of sexual expression — romantic to the passionate even spiritual. Sex can be a cuddly and romantic, or it can be hot monkey love.
It can be tender as well as intense. You ought to have the ability direct the flow, or at least go with it.
Do you have an adventuresome side to you? Do you like a challenge? Are you comfortable experimenting with one thing or another? If you are, you will find these are all valuable assets in making sex happen for you. There are still a whole lot of sex-negative messages out there in our society. You’ll need to be strong enough to stand against these repressive currents and pursue your heart’s desire.
In the end, a good sex life takes effort. It takes knowledge, practice and relationship skills. A degree of personal openness and a sense of fun and adventure are also very helpful. Learning more about yourself and what makes you tick, will give you an advantage when the time is ready for you to partner up for sex.
Name: Walter
Gender: Male
Age: 67
Location: Padre Island
I’m a recent widower, I haven’t dated in over 40 years. I’m still very interested in sex, but things don’t work like they used to down there. I had a comfortable life with my wife and performance was never an issue. Now that I’m on my own now, I’m afraid I will disappoint, if you know what I mean.
Yeah, I think I do know what you mean. Getting back into the swing of things after so many years on the shelf a daunting task. If you layer on sexual performance issues…well the task becomes even harder, no pun intended.
I know I don’t have to tell you this, but our bodies change as we age. Our sexual response cycle changes too. You are familiar with the four stages of the sexual response cycle, right? In case you are not, they are — arousal, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Despite the changes that aging brings, there’s no good reason why you shouldn’t be able to enjoy a happy, healthy sex life. Of course, having a healthy mind-set about sex will also help.
A rich and full sex life, possibly even like the one you shared with your recently departed wife, will involve some patience and understanding and possibly some reprogramming of old ways of looking at sex. For example, performance issues are only a problem if you are expecting something of your body that it cannot deliver. And if you date within your age group, you’ll find that all your peers will be just as familiar as you with dwindling physical capacities.
So ok, it’s gonna take considerably longer to get a hardon at your age — that’s a given. This just means you need to take your time, increase and focus the stimulation and while your cock is taking its sweet time to point skyward, enjoy all the sensual pleasures coming your way in the meantime. That last part is really difficult for us aging men folk. Sometimes we concentrate so fiercely on gettin our dick hard that we miss all the great pleasuring stuff that is happening all around us.
Once you get your boner goin, I suggest that you add a little stiffy insurance. Wear a cockring. If you don’t know what that is, check out my Sex Toy Review Site. Use the search function; type in “cockring” and presto! You’ll find all kinds of information on these helpful little buggers.
I know a number of older men, particularly those with high blood pressure, who are unable to take erection-enhancing meds like Viagra, who are turning to penis pumps to get their wood started. Not sure what a penis pump is or does. Well, time to do more online research at my Sex Toy Review Site. Again, use the search function; type in “penis pump” and presto! Loads of information about these helpful tools will appear.
I’m hoping that when you say that you and your wife “had a comfortable life” together, where performance was never an issue that you’re telling me that your sex life wasn’t all about getting it up and getting it off. Sexual pleasure can come through all kinds of sex play — touching, talking, and being physically close, oral sex as well as full on fucking. I’d be willing to guess that your future partners will appreciate you being a fully sensual lover, not just a sexual performer.
Remember the proverbial cum shot is not the same thing as an orgasm. Lots of seasoned older men are able to be orgasmic without a full erection or an ejaculation. You may even find that you are capable of several very satisfying mini orgasms instead of the one BIG-O of years past. I encourage you not to fall into the trap of equating sexual functioning with manliness; that’s a dead end.
This challenging new phase in your life, daunting as it might be, can also be an exciting adventure of self-discovery. You basically have permission to re-imagine and redefine what type of sexual expression suits you best at this stage in your life. One good way of testing the waters, so to speak is to start with self-pleasuring. This is the perfect opportunity to experiment with sexual performance enhancing toys like a cockring, vibrator or a penis pump. If you haven’t done so already, why not discover the pleasures of your ass. Happily, you don’t need an erection to enjoy some good old-fashioned butt play; your prostate will do all the work.
You may discover you have new or yet unexplored interests in other sexual expressions like role-playing, kink, or maybe even same-sex partners. Just because your earlier life may have been pretty straight and vanilla, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. The more you know about your body and what turns you on, the more information you’ll be able to share with your partners.
Unabashedly sharing your newfound sexual experiences and interests with others will be the basis for your future partnered sexual expression. Know that other women and men of your age group are also rediscovering and reawakening their sexuality. What a great joy it would be to explore the territory together.
I invite you to rekindle your natural curiosity about the wide range of human sexual expression. Take it slow. Learn to communicate effectively: share what makes you feel good with your partners and be sure to ask them what turns them on. Don’t take yourself too seriously, and keep it playful. And most of all, keep an open mind about all of this, will ya?
Good luck ya’ll
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I’M BACK! Did ya’ll have a brilliant holiday season? I sure hope so.
I enjoyed my brief respite from podcasting, but I realize I can’t stay away long. Besides missing you when we’re not together, my in-box gets all clogged up with questions and comments that cry out for my attention.
So let’s start off the New Year with our usual question and answer format. Because I have a hot load of very stimulating questions.
- Todd is a budding kinkster.
- Seattle asks about the “etiquette” involved in public sex.
- Nanine has saggy tits and is afraid no one will love her.
- ME says his partner can’t get off no matter how hard he tries!
- Jimmy is confused. Is he a top or bottom; dom or sub?
BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
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Hey sex fans,
I have a whopper of a show for you today. We return to our usual question and answer format this week, because I have a steamy load of stimulating questions from all overt the freakin’ place. And I respond with an equal number of cheeky, charming and oh so enlightening responses! Hey, it’s what I do.
- Joe wants to know about Hepatitis-B and cock sucking.
- Donna and her BF wanna start bumpin’ parts. But where to begin?
- Gregg thinks he needs a sex coach. I think he does too.
- Naf wants to top, but he is a little short of wood!
- Anonymous wants some tips on ball stretching.
BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.
Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!
Look for my podcasts on iTunes. You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe. I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.
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Name: PaunFarr
Gender: Male
Age: 41
Location: Ohio
Dr. Dick, I’m feeling the intense letdown of the ballot issues passed this week in California, Florida and Arkansas. Especially CA, where they had gay marriage but now have lost it, and my heart goes out for all those married couples now in limbo. I don’t understand this. Ohio passed their “marriage protection” act a couple years ago, and it was a devastating blow to me. Why is ok for the majority to restrict the rights of the minority? Where is our defender? Where is justice simply because it’s the right thing, not necessarily the popular thing? Will Barack Obama be able to turn around the tide of hatred and discrimination that George Bush has sewn for eight years? How long must we wait to be recognized as equal citizens and not made to feel like the lowest form of person possible? Looking for some advice on how to hold my head high when we’re so often given the message to slink away.
Yeah, I’m bummed too. But the November 4th vote is not the end of the story. There 
are many more chapters yet to be written. Don’t let your disappointment and frustration take the wind out of your sails.
The very first thing I learned in the 30 plus years I’ve spent fighting for human rights, is that equality and justice never comes easily. The second thing I learned is that my dignity and self-worth is not dependent on the approbation of others.
You learn to hold your head up because you KNOW you are as good as anyone else. You fight inequality and injustice wherever you find it, not just in the gay community. You make allies of all the other people in your community who are marginalized for whatever reason. You build a coalition. When your efforts fail, as they often will, you support and encourage your colleagues and plan your next assault on the in equitable and unjust system. In fact, you redouble your grassroots organizing to broaden your base by reaching out to others in a language they will understand. One thing is certain; other minorities will not automatically understand your oppression as a gay man any more than you will automatically understand what oppresses them. But working together to find common ground will provide you the means to achieve your goals of equality in the dominant culture. That’s how it’s done.
And ya know what? This struggle is never over. If you leave the battle once your rights have been secured, then you signal to your allies that you were only in it for yourself. Nothing will undermine a coalition faster than selfishness.
Whatever you do, don’t be lookin for a defender to swoop in and save the day for you. That’s the stuff of fairytales. If you’re not on the front lines making this coalition happen, then don’t expect anyone, from the president on down, to come to your rescue. Remember, dignity is not the result of the struggle; dignity is in the struggle. Make this your life’s work and you won’t be discouraged with one, or even several, set backs.
Name: Paige
Gender: Female
Age: 22
Location: Tulsa
I am engaged to a wonderful guy. I’m excited about my upcoming marriage, but I’m also afraid that it will fail. I know you are going to think we’re freaks, but my fiancé and I have decided to save ourselves for after we are married. Some of our friends even our recently married friends are having trouble with their relationship and with the divorce rate so high, what are the chances that my marriage will work? Do I just have cold feet or am I not ready to get married?
First off, I don’t think you’re a freak for reserving full sexual expression till after you 
are married. It wasn’t too long ago when that sort of thing was the norm. And as you say, even though nowadays most people enter marriage as established sex partners, that alone won’t insure a marriage will be a success.
So ok, if a successful marriage is not dependent on sexual experience what does it take to make a marriage work? Hell, if I knew that I’d bottle it and make myself a well deserved fortune.
For the sake of argument, let’s just say you are the marrying kind and that you simply have cold feet, like every bride and groom to be does. Let’s say that you and your fiancé have made the right choice…for you…to enter your marriage as virgins. What’s next? Possibly you need to jettison the Pollyanna notion that marriage is a breeze. Your recently married friends are having problems because there are always problems in a marriage. It’s the nature of the beast. Hopefully, the problems you guys will face won’t be insurmountable. But, sure as shootin’, problems will be your constant companions, sometimes they’ll even big problems. So count on it and prepare yourself accordingly.
If you have an unwavering commitment to one another to do whatever it takes to make your overall relationship work, you’ll probably be ok. Being sexually unfamiliar with one another may be a liability or it might be an asset. One thing is certain, if you guys start to have problems with the whole sex thing, as often happens for newlyweds, get help right away. There should be no shame or embarrassment about that. In fact, you might want to be proactive and start looking around for sexual enrichment courses or videos to help you grow together as lovers. Look to my Product Review Page for some video and toy suggestions.
Here are some generic tips. Great sex is dependent on mutuality. Be sure your partner knows he or she is loved, appreciated and respected. One of you may discover that he or she has a stronger libido than the other. That’s pretty common. Deal with this immediately, like adults. Don’t wait for your relationship to go broken. Accommodations and compromise are always necessary in seeking the common good. And people come to compromise and accommodation through effective communication. If you don’t know how to do that, your relationship is doomed.
Passion is not a dirty word, nor is creative sexual expression a sin. If you have religious scruples about enjoying your body and that of your fiancé you’re headed for trouble. Boredom in the bedroom, particularly for newlyweds is a recipe for disaster.
Saving yourself for your wedding night does not preclude you being well versed in self-pleasuring. In fact, the more you know about your body and the mysteries of your sexual response cycle the smoother things will go for the two of you on your wedding night. Nowadays there is absolutely no need for anyone to come to their marriage bed uninformed about sex in general and his or her sexuality in particular. And come prepared; always have lots and lots of lube handy!
Like I said, mutuality is the key. And since we all evolve sexually, both of you will need to grow right along with your partner. Make your sex play an adventure. Never hesitate to check in with one another to see how the pleasure thing is going. What worked last time is not necessarily gonna work the next time.
Spontaneity is always a real good thing. Traditional marriage doesn’t mean you have to be stogy. Both of you need to take responsibility for seeing that your intimacy needs are being met. Sometimes that will involve fucking like bunnies, other times it will mean vegging-out in front of the boob-tube with a fist full of Häagen-Dazs.
Openness and honesty about your most secret sexual desires and needs is essential. Can’t trust your partner with your secrets, you oughtn’t be married to him or her. Take responsibility for your own sexuality. Ask for what you want and need, but don’t neglect caring for yourself.
Seek your partner’s pleasure before your own. This is particularly important for a man. If you become too busy to celebrate your sexuality together, you are indeed too fuckin busy. Prioritize your life with your partner at its center.
There’s a fundamental difference between making love and fucking. Both have their place in a healthy marriage. And there ought also be room for solitary sex too. Everyone in entitled to privacy and private time, especially in a marriage.
Have some creativity about your sexual expression. Toys, fantasies, role-playing, they’re all good. Don’t be afraid to experiment. Attend to making your sex play spaces fit the mood — romantic to down and dirty. One size does not fit all, if you catch my drift.
If you plan to go to seed once you’re married you can be assured that the fire will go out just as soon as you do. Stay in shape, get plenty of exercise, and keep yourself attractive to your partner. Pay attention to your personal hygiene. No one wants to bump someone with a smelly body and bad breath.
Make sure your partner is fully aroused before full-on fucking. And remember sex is way more than the old in an out. Finally, have a sense of humor about the whole thing; it will help take the edge off.
Name: Steve
Gender: male
Age: 46
Location:
Safe to swallow? Improve the taste?
I just love it when ya’ll take the time to write or call me to tell me about your spunk. I like it for two reasons. First, it reassures me that ya’ll are paying attention to your sexual response cycle. And that you continue to be fascinated with how your body works. These are two really good things.
Second, well hell, I just get a kick outta hearin’ about your joy juice discoveries. Gosh, 
It warms the cockles of my poor old heart. So keep it up, so to speak, and keep the good doctor informed. Who knows one day I may hear something I’ve never heard before.
Back to you Steve, there ain’t nothin’ to get all freaked out about. Eatin’ your spooge will not make you sick. If you get off suckin’ up your own seed, knock yourself out. Have a ball! Oh wait, you already are!
Think about it for a minute, there couldn’t possibly be anything in your cum that could harm big old you, because that would mean it would also be harmful to your cute little defenseless sperm. But it’s not, so there.
Technically speaking, your joy juice, semen to be more precise, is mostly water. There’s also a simple sugar to keep you’re hard workin’ sperm alive and well. And, the rest is pure protein, baby. So look at it this way, your eating habits, so to speak, will require you to eat just a little less tofu than the rest of us.
And I do know a little something about making your spooge…spunkalicious.
Most of our ejaculate is produced in our seminal vesicles and prostate gland: not in our testicles, as most folks think. Only our sperm is produced in our balls, and sperm makes up only a fraction of our ejaculate. Our prostate gland is influenced by what we consume; eat, drink, smoke, things like that. So if you want to have sweet tasting jizz, for yourself and others, watch what you consume. Oh, and drink lots of water too.
Eating celery and/or parsley can have an almost immediate effect on the taste of your cum. Some report that the effect can be as swift as 30 minutes. So not only do celery and parsley freshen your breath, but they freshen your spunk as well. Hey, it’s like having two mints in one.
Oh and I can turn you on to a brand new product. So brand new, in fact, that I have yet
to publish a review of it on my Product Review Page. Let me introduce you to Intimate Teas. They have this special tea called My Maple Cookie. It’s a unique blend of premium herbs specially formulated to change the female genitalia and male semen to smell and taste like pure maple. How fun is that? And it really works too. I mean, who doesn’t want his/her juices to smell and taste like dessert?
If your diet is heavy with meats and fish your jizz will most likely have a bitter taste. A high concentration of dairy products creates a foul taste…so does all that coffee and nicotine. Lots of fruits and vegetables in your diet (except for asparagus that is) will produce a slightly sugary taste. And if you like your cocktails (the kind you drink, silly), it’s best to stick with high-quality, naturally fermented beers, wine or liquor. The cheap stuff, the rotgut, will not only give you a wicked hangover, but will cause your spooge to have an extremely acidic taste.
Name: Alva
Gender: female
Age: 40
Location: New Mexico
It has been over six years since I have had sex. My husband of 12 years died cancer 5 years ago. There was no sex in our relationship the last year of his life. He was the love of my life and I still miss him so much. I would like to get back into the swing of things. I just don’t know how. My friends tell me I should get on with my life. They tell me I’m still an attractive woman and that I’m wasting my life. Sometimes they badger me so that I don’t want to be around them. Maybe there’s something wrong with me. Maybe I’m dead inside. Why can’t I just move on?
You raise some very interesting issues, Alva, concerns that are often ignored or misdiagnosed by healing and helping professionals. Grief has a profound effect on 
every aspect of our lives. Yet there is hardly any literature on the effects grief has on our sexuality. To my mind, grief is the leading causes of sexual dysfunction for those who have experienced the death of a loved one. And you, my dear, present some of the classic symptoms — indecision, self-doubt, lack of libido, a desire to isolate.
Before I continue I want to underscore that grief is not depression. And treating grief with an antidepressant is counterproductive. It can actually take away the impetus to resolve the grief and get on the rest of one’s life.
Now, is six years of grieving enough? Apparently your friends think so. But what do you think? Would reviving your sex life sully the memory of your dear departed husband? I believe it’s time for you to bring this concern to a professional for help. I suggest that you get some therapy from someone who is well versed in both sexuality and grief counseling. I say this not because I’m siding with your friends, but because you, yourself, identify this as a problem.
What could a counselor do for you, you may ask? Well, I can only speak for myself, and the work I do in my practice. A good portion of my practice is with sick and dying people and their friends and family who survive them. I know the impact a terminal illness and the dying process can have on the surviving spouse or partner. We often go into survival mode, shutting down so much of ourselves in an effort to have the strength to cope with this life-altering experience. Of course, trying to kick-start our life afterwards is often a monumental effort. Without the support and guidance of a professional or a group of similarly challenged people, some of us just sink to the lowest common denominator and stop fully functioning.
Traumatic events in our lives can radically shift us out of living mode into merely surviving mode. And if this goes on for a long time — and six years is a very long time in my opinion — surviving mode begins to feel like living mode. But it’s not! Good thing we have friends to tell us when we are off course. You are right to say that sometimes the interventions of our friends can feel like badgering. And I know that’s not helpful. But how else are they to convey their continued concern for your wellbeing?
I believe in the resilience of the human spirit. I believe that we can honor our dead and continue to live and love too. Now it’s true that some animals and even some humans mate for life. And when the mate dies they never mate again. However, this doesn’t sound like you, Alva. It sounds to me like you have a desire to get on with your life, to fill the void, to make new connections, but you simply don’t know how. Acknowledging that fact is a real good place to begin.
Perhaps you could start by reawakening your sexuality through self-pleasuring. Reconnect with your body and the joy it can bring you. Six years is a long time to be without, so starting up again may take some effort. While you are working on resolving your grief in a grief support group, you might want to connect with another group member who will no doubt be experiencing much the same things as you. You could explore your sexuality together.
Reestablishing a social life will no doubt follow, slowly at first. But the inevitable tug of our basic need for human to human contact will draw you, if you let it. Remember the best testament to those who have died is to continue to celebrate life itself.
Good luck ya’ll
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