Hey sex fans,
It’s the day before Thanksgiving and I have the holiday treat you’ve all been waiting for. 
Porn star, activist, educator, rigger and Dom. Tony Buff, Is back with us for more of his unique Sex EDGE-U-cation.
Part 1 of my chat with Tony, which appeared last week at this time, is the most popular interview podcast to date. It broke all download records for a single podcast in a single week, so yea for that. But wait, did you somehow miss last week’s installment? We’ll that’s just not right! But don’t worry; you can make it up. All my podcasts are archived right here. All ya have to do is use the site’s search function to your right; type in Podcast #168 and presto! Don’t forget the #sign when you do your search
Tony and I discuss:
- His fan base that includes loads of kinky women.
- His polyamorous relations that includes Derek da Silva and Chris Yosef.
- Open, honest communication the key to relationship success.
- Power Play — how he started and his life now.
- Being a power switch.
- Exhilaration of creating scenes for his sub.
- Cathartic and recreational aspects of BDSM.
- The importance of working with sex positive & kink-positive healing and helping professionals.
Be sure to visit Tony on his kick-ass site HERE!
See a slideshow of Tony & friends at work and play.
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Hey sex fans,
We’re back with that delicious Georgia peach, Lady HotchKiss, for more of her unique Sex EDGE-U-cation. In this series of podcasts we are looking at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles. But you know that already, huh?
Did you somehow miss last week’s show? That’s a pity! Because Lady HotchKiss spilled the beans about her life with her two slaves. Does that peak your interest? I thought it would. You’ll find last week’s podcast by using my site’s search function in the sidebar. Type in Podcast #146, but be sure to include the #sign.
I’m so lovin this conversation, because Lady HotchKiss is bendin’ my mind big time. This week we shift gears a bit; Lady HotchKiss takes us on a little tour of her Pro-Dom life. We get way more eye-opening chat and loads of laughs too. You don’t want to miss a moment of this.
Lady HotchKiss and I discuss:
- Pro-Dom activities —
- ——Interrogation to medical play; tickling to slave training.
- BDSM etiquette and protocols.
- Sexuality/Genitality/Power play.
- Tips for the novice kinkster.
- What newbies need to know.
- Care to “munch”?
- The need for kink-positive healing and helping professionals.
Be sure to visit Lady HotchKiss at her websites HERE and HERE!
See a slideshow of the fabulous Lady HotchKiss at work and play.
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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.
Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!
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Hey sex fans,
Today we travel to Atlanta, GA for some mighty fine Sex EDGE-U-cation. We chat with an amazing woman. She’s pretty as all get out, but don’t let her sweet looks fool you. She is the consummate Fem/Dom, I mean right down to the marrow in her bones. 
But if that’s not enough to turn your crank, she has a multitude of facets to her delightful personality, not least among them being a domestic goddess. And she actually made Dr Dick blush. Not everyone can do that!
I have the distinct pleasure of welcoming the renowned and nationally respected dominatrix, Lady HotchKiss.
In this series of podcasts we are looking at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles. We investigate topics both familiar and exotic. And we chat with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.
Lady HotchKiss and I will be exploring all sorts of interesting topics including her idyllic family life with her two slaves. This is edgy and thought provoking stuff, sex fans. You don’t want to miss a moment of this.
Lady HotchKiss and I discuss:
- Her 24/7 life as a Dom.
- The psychological dimensions of having two slaves.
- The prevalence of the Fem/Dom archetype in fashion and the popular culture.
- Being a domestic goddess.
- M/s protocols.
- The symbiotic relationship between Master and slave.
- Bottom/sub/slave; not just a question of semantics.
Be sure to visit Lady HotchKiss at her websites HERE and HERE!
See a slideshow of the fabulous Lady HotchKiss at work and play.
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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!
Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.
Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!
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Hey sex fans,
Listen up!
I’m adding this new feature to my Q&A columns. Whenever possible, I will include in my response a link to a movie in my HOW TO VIDEO LIBRARY (see the VOD tab at the top of the page?) that will further educate or enrich the person who is asking the question.
Think of it as at HOMEWORK or further study on the topic at hand. I hope all of you will benefit from this terrific instructional and enriching resource. (Click on the images below for viewing information.)
Name: Spencer
Gender:
Age: 37
Location: Ottawa
I am very interested in learning more about prostate massage and milking techniques. Are you familiar with these things? Thank you.
I am very familiar with both prostate massage and the fetish commonly known as milking.
But let’s begin with prostate massage, because it is something every guy can practice and enjoy. I 
recommend all us men folk be prostate aware. You know I’m a big advocate of frequent prostate self-exam, right? And I figure while you’re down there rootin’ around in your butt-hole checking for abnormalities, hey spend a little more time and give yourself a nice massage why don’t ‘cha? Fingers work just fine for this, but an insertable vibrator is…well…out of this world. Prostate massage is a wonderful way to expand your self-pleasuring repertoire, especially for all you guys out there who only know how to yank on their dick for joy. And ladies, prostate massage is a great way to play with your male partners. Perhaps if you signal to your guy that a little butt play can be fun, more straight guys will be less ass-phobic and the world will be a much better place, don’t cha know.
You can feel your prostate gland by inserting a finger a couple of inches or so into your bum. If you are the least bit aroused your prostate will feel like a smooth rounded flat lump about the size of a large almond. Just in back of and up from your prostate is a smaller triangular wedge shaped nodule that is the bottom portion of your somewhat larger seminal vesicles. This, by the way, is where most of your jizz is produced and stored. Underneath the seminal vesicles are the ampullae, which are tiny reservoirs for your sperm that will mix with all the other fluids produced by the vesicles and your prostate when you cum.
As you become aroused, ejaculatory fluid and sperm accumulate in these glands backing up behind valves in the ejaculatory ducts. When the fluid pressure reaches a high enough threshold, the valves open and the urethral bulb fills, triggering the muscular contractions of your ejaculation. This empties the glands and you’ve just shot your wad.
Naturally, if one abstains from ejaculating for a while and prolongs his arousal stage, say like through edging, more fluids will build up, making for a larger load and a more explosive orgasm.
So with that little anatomy lesson behind us, so to speak, we can get back to prostate massage. Simply insert your well-lubricated middle finger or middle finger and index finger into your butt hole and apply a little pressure. Slowly massage your prostate. Doesn’t that feel yummy? Some men can cum by prostate massage alone. Hell, you may find that you don’t even need a stiff dick to enjoy an orgasm and/or an ejaculation.
Now to kink things up a bit we introduce the fetish called milking. This is mostly a partnered — dom/sub, bondage/discipline — sort of deal. But a guy can certainly do it on his own if he’d like. Basically, the object here is to drain and collect the spunk produced. How it’s collected? Well that’s is up for grabs. Ya see there are a zillion variations on the milking theme. Some practitioners deny the donor the pleasure of an orgasm while collecting his jizz. Ice packs are placed on a guy’s cock and balls before milking begins. The spooge will flow through prostate massage and masturbation, but there won’t be much feeling for the donor.
Another interesting twist on milking is to completely restrain and blindfold the donor. This may include a little (or a lot) of cock and ball torture (CBT) during the milking sessions. There are even milking machines available, not unlike the contraptions that milk a mother’s breast, for the medical fetishists among us.
There are sadists who revel in denying the donor any sexual release except for his milking sessions. This is where a male chastity belt will come in mighty handy. A guy will still need to 
have his balls drained, so to speak, every few weeks in order to avoid him losing his joy juice in a wet dream or when he takes a piss. But with regular prostate milkings, a dude can be deprived of orgasmic release for a long time with no harmful effects.
Those going for volume rather than frequency practice what is known as cum control, which takes edging to a whole new level. Their objective is to go as long as possible without triggering an orgasm or a wet dream. Since the pressure of fluid buildup increases with each arousal, the urgency to have an ejaculation also increases. To deny himself the release is, for some, exquisitely painful.
If you’re still looking for more information on all of this, search them interweb tubes for key words like: Semen Worship / Orgasm Control / Cum Control / Milking / Edging / Chastity and Cock and Ball Torture.
Name: Shelly
Gender:
Age: 21
Location: Atlanta
How come men are seen as ’studs’ and women as ’sluts’ for doing the same things.
Basically darling, that’s because our culture is pretty fucked up — sexually, and in so many other was too.
Despite the progress we’ve made over the last 50 years to liberate ourselves from suffocating 
sex-role stereotyping and culturally induced gender expectations, we are nowhere near being free and clear of all that crap.
Changing societal attitudes about sex begins with each one of us carving out our own healthy place to celebrate our sexuality. Carving out that place means we don’t tolerate this or any other kind of double standard bullshit from those around us. It’s tough standing against the tide of sexual bigotry, but it will make you strong and proud. Banding together with other like-minded people for support and encouragement is also important.
The biggest danger, of course, is that young, sexually progressive women will, in time, cave to the pressure to conform. They will begin to internalize the madonna/whore dichotomy that has plagued all of us for millennia and pass it on to yet another generation of vulnerable women. The risk is always there; so vigilance is the only response.
And all you guys out there who think that this double standard is the way things oughta be. Think again! You are not a stud if you cheapen your sexual partners by degrading them; you’re just an asshole.
Name: Brianna
Gender:
Age: 30
Location: San Diego
I’ve been so disturbed about the increasing number of recalled Chinese made products lately — dog food, toothpaste, children’s toys and the like — that I was horrified to discover that most of my sex toys are made in China. I suppose this is a dumb time to ask, but how safe are sex toys?
That is a real good question, Brianna. Ya know there was a time when I thought that the greatest hazard to the ardent sex toy consumer was simply all the poorly designed and cheaply 
manufactured crap that floods the marketplace. But in light of the alarming news of recent months about the safety risks of many products coming from China, I think there is room for concern about the safety of Chinese made sex toys.
I hasten to add that not all Chinese imports are dangerous. Nor are all products grown or manufactured in the US safe. But there is a long history of unscrupulous Western companies exploiting the Chinese labor force. This greed and abuse leads to a dangerous mix that often has dire consequences.
Obviously there is no government regulatory agency out there with a mandate to protect us from unsafe or unhealthful sex toys. Of course, one can make the case that even when there is a government regulatory agency with a mandate to protect us, and our pets, from unsafe, tainted or unhealthy food, drugs and other consumables they’re not doing a particularly good job.
The sex toy industry does an equally piss-poor job of regulating itself. No surprise there, I suppose. Profit motives seem to trump all other considerations. And since there is virtually no scientific data on sex toy safety the responsibility for keeping ourselves safe falls to us, the consumer. It’s up to us to positively impact the market. We can begin by taking some responsibility for what we consume. We can go GREEN with our sex toys, so to speak. We could patronize only the retailers that provide fair and balanced product reviews. We could refrain from buying on impulse or being swayed by slick smutty packaging. We could avoid excess packaging that only winds up in a landfill.
We could avoid doing business with sex toy retailers who continue to peddle products with by unsubstantiated claims. Herbal supplements that promise to grow a guy’s dick bigger or enhance his sexual performance. Or those patches, pills and lubricating oils that are supposed to boost a chick’s desire. It’s not like there aren’t good products out there, it’s just that we have to do our research before we buy. Check out some of the great Product Review Sites too — Dr Dick’s Sex Toy Reviews, Jane’s Guide or Hey Epiphora.
We could protect ourselves by insisting our toys be manufactured by people who have access to sex information, education and contraception for themselves. If our purchases support repressive governments who abuse their people we are complicit in the repression. Imagine our dildos, vibrators and fetish gear being manufactured by people who will never be able to enjoy a happy, healthy integrated sex life because of gender inequity or poverty. That sucks, huh?
We can also protect ourselves by patronizing responsible and ethical sex toy retailers. These include my very own Dr Dick’s Stockroom, Good Vibrations, Babeland and Eden Fantasys. These retailers have excellent customer service departments and well as educational components to outreach. They’re also terrific resources for all your sex toy related questions.
There have been a lot of unsubstantiated claims made of late that there is a potential danger in all sex toys. Some insist that most sex toys contain cancer-causing ingredients. While I won’t go that far, there are some things to be concerned about. For example, many soft rubber toys are made using phthalates, which have been linked to environmental and human health issues. Phthalates (pronounced “thall-eights”) are a chemical compound used to soften hard plastics into soft rubbery and jelly-like toys. I also recommend that you avoid toys with artificial scent and dyes. They’ve been known to trigger allergic reactions in some people.
I believe that if you buy quality you are more likely to get quality. Consider hypoallergenic materials, such as silicone, wood, glass and aluminum. They are more expensive, but worth it. Then again, you could always use a condom on any insertable, or less expensive toy of questionable material. The problem with this is, condoms are not biodegradable and they’re expensive. By the time you factor in the cost of condoms for every toy use, you’ll actually be spending more per diddle than if you bought quality from the get-go.
Remember the more information you have, the wiser a consumer you will be.
Good luck ya’ll
Hey sex fans,
Today we take an audio field trip. I have the distinct pleasure of welcoming another 
Seattle-based personality; the nationally renowned and respected dominatrix and educator, Lady Lydia. We visit with her in her dungeon, don’t cha know. Those of you who have been paying attention will know that Lady Lydia is the very first female voice in this series called Sex EDGE-U-cation. So yeah for that, huh?
In this series we take a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles. We investigate topics both familiar and exotic. And we are chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.
And Lady Lydia fits that description to a tee! She was even part of the recently concluded Seattle Erotic Arts Festival, so folks you know she hot!
Lydia and I will be exploring all sorts of interesting topics; not least among them is her 10-year career as a professional BDSM top here in the Emerald City. This is edgy and thought provoking stuff, sex fans. You don’t want to miss a moment of this.
Lady Lydia and I discuss:
- Seattle being a hotbed of perversion.
- How BDSM and kink permeates her professional and personal life.
- BDSM — safe and consensual.
- Her role as the star of her own line of DVDs.
- Her activities, including her double sessions and private lessons.
- Therapeutic BDSM.
- Some of the scenes she gets into.
Be sure to visit Lady Lydia at her website HERE! (This is not for the faint of heart.)
See a slideshow of some of Lydia’s work. Click on the thumbnails below.
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Hey sex fans,
I have a whopper of a show for you today. We return to our usual question and answer format this week, because I have a steamy load of stimulating questions from all overt the freakin’ place. And I respond with an equal number of cheeky, charming and oh so enlightening responses! Hey, it’s what I do.
- Joe wants to know about Hepatitis-B and cock sucking.
- Donna and her BF wanna start bumpin’ parts. But where to begin?
- Gregg thinks he needs a sex coach. I think he does too.
- Naf wants to top, but he is a little short of wood!
- Anonymous wants some tips on ball stretching.
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Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. 
Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.
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REVIEW #24
Hey sex fans,
We’re back with our final installment in this series that focuses on the pleasures of Erotic Electro Stimulation. And the exceptional products of Paradise Electro Stimulations, PES.
Last week, as you recall, the Dr Dick Review Crew and I introduced you to a slew of very cool PES Electrodes that attach to the PES Power Box. These are the thingies and that actually deliver the stimulation. If you somehow missed either of the first two parts of our presentation, look for REVIEW #22 and #23.
This week the Review Crew will introduce you to even more PES Electrodes. This week they are all pretty much gender specific — for those among us with manly parts.
This week’s Review Crew include:
Glenn & Hank — Reviews #4, 16, 17, 18, 23
Gina & Kevin — Reviews #4, 13, 16, 17, 18, 23
Glenn & Hank introduce us to the PES Tubular Mid Ring Electrode (C087) $70.00 and the PES Testicle Tubular Electrode (C085) $60.00.
Hank: “Ya see, the Tubular Mid-Ring is designed to stimulate various points along your cock shat.”
Glenn: “And the Testicle Tubular Electrode is designed to wrap around your nuts, as well as separating each of your balls to spread the e-stim all over your family jewels. You get to adjust the focus by tightening or loosening the fit of the tubing.
Hank: “Put these babies together and you have some amazing sensations playing off one another all over your cock and balls.”
Glenn: “The best thing is the Mid-Ring is completely adjustable. It’s made of a flexible tubing that you can disconnect from the brass connection and cut to fit any spot on your dick, even right under your dickhead, like the PES Corona Stimulator. Reconnect the tubing to the brass connection and you’re all set.”
Hank: “The same is true for the Testicle Tubular Electrode. So no one has to worry about a ‘one size fits all’ situation. Because as we all know there is no such thing when it comes to cock and balls.”
..full review here
Gina & Kevin introduce us to the PES Tubular Base Ring Electrode (C086) $70.00 and the PES Prostate Stimulator Electrode (C092) $133.00.
Gina: “When Kevin and I met, I was like this good little Catholic girl. About as sexually adventurous as I ever got was having sex with the lights on. I mean it, I must have been a real piece of work.”
Kevin: “Yeah, it was like she had just escaped from a convent or something. She was like totally adorable, with this knock-out body, but she was so timid and shy and like completely inexperienced.”
Gina: “But look at me now! Thanks to Kevin and our own devious Dr Dick I’ve gotten in touch with my inner ‘Dom’. Despite my feminist leanings, I thought women were always subservient to men in the bedroom. I never realized there were ‘Sub’ men. And anyone who didn’t know Kevin and my little secret would never guess he loves to be dominated. I mean, it came as a huge surprise to me.”
Kevin: “It’s true. Until that fateful first review I did as part of Dr Dick’s Review Crew. I never new I had an inner ‘Sub’ just dying to get out. I just thought I like things in my ass.”
Gina: “There’s so much more to this sex stuff than what meets the eye, huh? I am so grateful to have had this opportunity to wake myself up to the erotic world around me.”
Kevin: “So we have two electrodes to tell you about. The Tubular Base Ring is much like the one Glenn and Hank used, only it’s larger and fits down at the base of your cock. It’s designed to send intense stimulation all over your dick and down into your pelvis. Because it’s uni-polar, ya have to use it in combination with another electrode. Ya get it?”
Gina: “To be truthful, we didn’t get it right away either. We both discovered that a single pole electrode, like the Tubular Base Ring, has to be used in conjunction with another single pole electrode to complete the erotic electro circuit.”
Kevin: “Doesn’t she sound like Suzie Scientist?”
Gina: “Shut up!”
Kevin: “Luckily we had this other electrode, the Prostate Stimulator, (Mmmm, prostate stimulation) to use with the Base Ring.”
Gina: “Yeah, I mean how lucky was that, butt boy?”
Kevin: “By the way, the Tubular Ring can be cut to size to allow for a more individual fit. The Prostate Stimulator, on the other hand is made up of two basic components: A flexible T-shaped stem with a chrome plated electro conductive sphere at the tip.”
..full review here
Name: Perth Guy
Gender:
Age: 50
Location: Perth Australia
I am going to have surgery to fix Diverticular Disease by removal of the sigmoid colon, which may result in a temp or Perm stoma (Colostomy). If its a permanent colostomy bag I know they basically remove your rectum, so no more anal sex. If its a temp stoma/colostomy bag can you still have anal sex? (whilst you rectum is “disconnected from the colon) If they are able to reverse it later and connect the transverse colon to the rectum is it still possible to have anal sex? I dont know who to ask this very strange question – its not the question you can ask around ” do you have a colostomy – do you have anal sex?”
Hey thanks for your message, Perth Guy. Sorry to hear you’re feeling poorly.
For those of us unfamiliar with diverticular (say: die-ver-tick-yoo-ler) disease, it affects the large intestine, or colon. It’s caused by small pouches that form, usually on the wall of the last part of the large intestine — the sigmoid colon. These pouches are called diverticula, don’t ‘cha know.
The terms ostomy and stoma are general descriptive terms that are often used interchangeably though they have different meanings. An ostomy refers to the surgically created opening in the body for the discharge of body wastes. A stoma is the actual end of the small or large bowel that is arranged to protrude through the abdominal wall.
I know it’s difficult to find helpful information about sexual concerns, like butt fucking, when facing a radical and disfiguring medical procedure like a colostomy. Our culture has such difficulty talking about sex even as it applies to healthy folks, it’s no wonder we fail those of us who are sick, maimed or disabled. I did, however, find a resource for you, Colostomy Pen Pals.
I suspect that you’ll not readily find the specific information about anal sex that you are looking for on that site. But here’s where you can do yourself and all your fellow ostomy patients a good turn. I want you to march right over to Colostomy Pen Pals and any other ostomy resource you might find online and just come out with it. Just like you did when you wrote to me. You know that if you have a concern about anal sex post surgery, there are a load of others out there who share your concern and interest. And some may actually have first-hand information to share.
Probably, there a lot of other folks who are too timid to ask or share about sex in general and anal sex in particular. But instead of stewing in isolation and lack of information, why not take the initiative and break open the topic yourself. If you’re gonna wait around for someone else to broach the issue, when you won’t, you’re gonna die waiting, my friend.
And if you think the information you are looking for will miraculously come from the medical industry; you really have to wake up and smell the coffee, my friend. The best resource you’re gonna find are the others in the ostomy community. Those folks, who are similarly challenged as you, will be the front line of the information you seek. But like I said, if you fail to put out there what it is you want, you can be sure no one is gonna spoon feed it to you.
So while it is true what you say: “its not the question you can ask around to the general public do you have a colostomy – do you have anal sex?” It is a very appropriate question to be asking the ostomy community. And if you find resistance in that community for raising this pressing sexual concern, stand your ground, darlin’! Dont sink to the lowest common denominator.
And just so you don’t think I’m ducking the question, my experience with ostomy patients suggest that it may very well be more of a question of wanting to have anal sex post surgery, than the ability to do so. I guess you’re just gonna have to wait and see for yourself. Keep me posted and I’ll keep our audience posted on this too.
Name: Liora
Gender:
Age: 23
Location: israel
i have a cyber relationship with a man who’s a great deal older than i am, lives several time zones away and has a little girl living with him (so we can only do it when she’s out of the house (which, untill september, will only be on sundays and that usually means that in practice we only do it once a month. i’m a very hormonal girl and this is driving me kind of crazy (masterbating by myself doesn’t make the problem go away somehow even if i get 10 orgasms in a row from it) and cheating or “moving on” are out of the question! i try to repress but the tension seems to make me want to bite his head off a lot lately which never used to happen. i love him very much so porn and cheating are out of the question… any advice on other ways of dealing with this frustration?
Jeez, you sound like a real charmer. What a petulant child you are. It’s a wonder that this grown-up guy puts up with you.
Here’s what I’m reading in your message. You’re hooked on cybersex with an older man who lives thousands of miles away from you. And because he has a daughter living with him for the summer, you can only connect with him once a month. And you’re pissed off and frustrated.
Well, I can understand being frustrated. Apparently you have a sex drive that would make a sexual athlete blush. Don’t get me wrong, that’s not a bad thing. It’s just that you refuse to satisfy your libido on your own, or with another person nearer to hand. And when you don’t get what you want, when and how you want it, you bite the old dude’s head off. Yeah, that sounds like true love to me.
And yes darlin’, I do have some advice. What you got goin’ here is an obsession, which has absolutely nothing to do with love. You’re selfish and self-absorbed. Ad if I had to guess, you can’t read the signs that are obvious to others with similar cyber connections. When the frequency of the contact diminishes, it’s apparent that one or the other of the participants is bored or wants to wind-down the liaison. You seem to gloss over this painful truth.
You deny yourself the natural sexual outlets a young woman your age can enjoy because you are
unhealthily preoccupied with this cyber connection. Where the fuck do you think this virtual relationship is gonna to wind up? Maybe, just maybe, this older gentleman has got the goods on you, he sees you for the crazed cyber junky you are, and he’s using the excuse of having his daughter around to avoid you.
Girlfriend, give it a rest. This is yesterday’s mashed potatoes. Time to move on. Why not connect with a real human this time, someone you can actually touch and be touched by. I know it sounds real old fashioned, but if you give it a try, you will find that honest-to-goodness human flesh beats a keyboard and monitor every time.
Name: MissK
Gender:
Age: 43
Location: Everett
My longtime male sub wants Me to try something on him that he saw on a web site. I’m not sure at all that it would be safe for him. It’s infusing saline into his scrotum, until they are very heavy. Any advice?
OMG, there are perverts in Everett WA? Who knew?
I am of the mind, as probably are you too, that needle play and blood sports are best left to trained professional doms. I have no way of knowing your level of proficiency in this area, but that’s not to say that one can’t learn to infuse if one really wants to.
I once watched a scrotal infusion demonstration in utter amazement. I don’t know how to do this
myself, so I won’t offer you a tutorial. However, I did notice that there are a couple “How To” videos for this fetish online. But I can’t recommend them either, since I haven’t had an opportunity to review any of them.
But since you raised the question…and, like I always say, if there’s one pervert out there who gets off on somethin’, there’s bound to be a shit load of other pervs out there who share that interest.
So I asked around among my more sexually adventurous friends for their advice. The predominant message was that infusing sterile saline solution into a guy’s scrotum requires a lot of time, because it’s a drip process. And that it must be done in a sterile environment to avoid complications. A mishap can cause a serious infection, which will be awfully painful and it can even lead to the loss of the guy’s cajones.
First, ya gotta shave the dude’s family jewels. If you nick his sack; stop right there. Ya gotta wait, until the nick heals before you try again. The infusion bag or bottle must be warmed before the infusion begins. You’ll also want the environment to be warm too, otherwise his scrotum will get all pruney, don’t cha know.
The infusion bag needs to be hung approximately three and a half feet, or one meter, higher than his nuts. You’ll need to know how to set up the infusion apparatus and bleed the infusion tube of air. If you don’t know how to do this, then you are in over your head. Don’t attempt this on your own.
Of course, you have to disinfect his scrotum with an alcohol-free Betaisodona solution. There is some disagreement on how best, or where best to sting the needle into the guy’s junk. But one thing for certain, be sure the guy’s dick is out of the way. Two of my experts suggest stinging between the testicles.
YIKES!! I know; I’m such a big baby. But I really hate needles. I got to tell you, all of this is giving me the willies. But hey, let’s not worry about my feelings, this is all about you and your stinkin’ fetish. So, by all means, let’s press on…no pun intended.
I am told that you can sting just about anywhere on the scrotum, but if you sting into a blood vessel, the dude will have a bruise. Probably if he’s into this particular fetish, a little bruising ain’t gonna bother him. But, ya absolutely got to make sure you don’t puncture one of his balls accidentally. This, I understand is very painful.
It’s recommended that the first time you infuse, you not use a whole liter of saline. Once he’s full, so to speak, remove the needle; firmly press your gloved finger on the puncture for a few minutes, then apply a little band aide —maybe one with a happy face or a little kitty on it. If you really loaded him up; don’t be surprised if he leaks a little. …Now there’s a pleasant thought!
Never reuse the needle and don’t just leave the infusion bag or bottle hanging around, this will only invite germs.
Finally, you’ll be happy to know that your man’s nut sack will return to normal in 48-72 hours, as the saline is absorbed into the body.
Good luck ya’ll
Name: Julian
Gender: male
Age: 32
Location: mexico city
What does CBT mean?
Geez, CBT could mean all sorts of things, depending on the context. It could stand for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, something the good doctor knows a great deal about. It could also stand for Computer Based Training, but why in the world would you be asking dr dick about that? Let me see what else…CBT also stands for “Cock and Ball Torture”.
Yeah, that’s it! That’s what you want to know about, huh Julian — you little pervert. Good for
you!
As a matter of fact, there are all manner of torture techniques for your cock and balls — Slapping, Squeezing, Pinching, Bondage, even the use of weights. Tickling can be a form of torture too. A dude’s package can withstand a great deal of torment. But dolling out professional grade torture is not for the amateur. The dominant (as opposed to the submissive) really needs to know what he or she is doing. Carelessness can lead to severe injury.
In some cases, “torture” is really mostly “play”. One’s cock and balls are simply tugged on or stretched out, maybe with some weights. There’s cock and ball bondage too — the family jewels trussed up like a thanksgiving turkey. And that’s just the beginning. Imagine what you could do with your mother’s old clothespins. See, now you’re putting two and two together!
Oh, and the “T” word doesn’t necessarily stand for torture. It can represent a full range of play — from tickling and teasing to torment and torture.
If you’re interested in investigating the pain/pleasure of cock and ball torture for your self, Julian, here’s a safe way to start. Begin by experimenting with different sensations. Look around the house for things you can brush or rub against your cock and balls. Start with something soft like a silk scarf. Progressively work your way to something with a rough texture, like a scrub brush. You will also notice that the sensations are different when your dick is soft, as opposed to when it’s hard.
Try a hollowed-out, cylindrical loofa sponge. Get it good and wet, and slip it over your hardon and try jerkin’ off with it. Rubber bands can be applied to your cock and balls. Not only for the constriction sensation, which is delightful in itself. But you can also snap those puppies for some delicious pain.
Lots of pervs like cock and ball spanking. You could try your hand at this, so to speak. Or you could employ a kitchen wooden spoon or spatula. They work nicely too. Prickly things like a fork can be used to scrape or drag over your cock and balls. Poke them lightly if you like. Be careful though; you do not want to break the skin and draw blood.
Cock and ball bondage can be a delight. Nylon rope is a good choice for this, but nothing beats 100% cotton clothesline. If you want something a bit more abrasive, try a little something in hemp.
Again, safe play is happy play. Wrap the rope around your cock, and around each of your balls separately. Use the rope to stretch your sac. A little discomfort is desirable, but just don’t over do it. Remember the sensations will become more intense as your dick engorges with blood. Keep this kind of play to less than 10 minutes at a time. Watch for signs of distress — your dick will veer to the color purple and your balls will feel cool to the touch. When that happens, it’s time to loosen the restraints and move on to something else for a while.
If you really get into this you can find loads of more professional torture implements at My Stockroom. Look for the tab at the top of the page. There’s a whole department in my online store devoted to cock and ball toys. You might want to start with a cock and ball harness. Doesn’t that sound like fun?
CBT is great for livening up and extending a ho-hum jerk off session too. And here’s a tip: once you know what you like and how you like it; you can turn on your partner to the practices. Speaking of partners, the novice perv might want to surrender his privates to a professional Dom for some training. A well-versed mistress or master will be able to take you places you’ve only dreamed about. A pro Dom is also a great resource for the do-it-yourself kinda guy. Before you launch into uncharted waters, seek the advice of someone who has made the study of pain/pleasure his or her life’s work. And don’t expect to get this information for free.
Cock and ball play can be loads of fun — alone or with others. Just remember the mantra — safe play is happy play. Experimenting is fine, but if you get in over your head and you don’t know what the fuck you are doing — STOP. Go back to something more suitable to your skill set.
Name: mariana
Gender: Female
Age: 18
Location: washington
i lost my virginity yesterday and i did not bleed why is this?
Are congratulations in order, Mariana? Was your first time enjoyable? Are you happy you’re no longer a virgin? It’s so amazing to me that you didn’t mention any thing about your first fuck other than that fact that you didn’t bleed. I guess, for some young women, that all that really matters.
As you may know, a hymen is a mucous membrane that is part of the vulva, the external part of
your genitals. It’s located outside the vagina, which is the internal part of your genitals. Not all women have a noticeable hymen. You may or may not have had one to begin with. However most women do. Simply put, having a hymen and/or having it rupture during one’s first fuck is not a reliable indicator of virginity.
Many girls and teens tear or otherwise dilate their hymen while participating in sports like cycling, horseback riding and gymnastics. A young woman can tear her hymen inserting a tampon, or while masturbating. And it’s possible that the girl may not even know she’s done this. Often there is little or no blood or pain when it happens. The tissues of the vulva are generally very thin and delicate prior to puberty. Like I said, the presence or absence of a hymen and/or bleeding in no way indicates whether or not you are a virgin.
Some hymens are elastic enough to permit a cock to enter without tearing, or they tear only partially, and there is NO bleeding at all. As I hope you know, when you are adequately aroused, you lubricate and your vagina becomes more flexible. It will stretch without discomfort for most women. It’s even possible for a woman to have sex for years without ‘tearing’ her hymen. And, like I said, some women never have much of a hymen to begin with.
Name: Mike
Gender: Male
Age: 20
Hi, my name is mike I’m 20 and I’m a bisexual. And I have an 8 and half inch uncircumcised cock. And I believe my stepmom has been spying on me. Now do I take the opportunity to have sex with her, or do I let it go. She’s extremely beautiful, very thick with a nice hairy pussy and big titties. I’ve seen her spying on me numerous times. What should I do? Should I drill her or should I not? Let me know.
AS IF, Mike! Nice try though.
I have a good deal of experience working with real issues of intra-family sex, so when your message arrived I knew it was sheer fantasy.
There is so much about your story that is completely unbelievable. First, you start out with way too much information about yourself — your bisexuality and your eight and a half inches of uncut cock. What the fuck does that have to do with anything? Unless, of course, you’re flashing your boy boner to your unsuspecting stepmother. But then if you’re flashing her, she can’t be spying on you. More likely, she is revolted by your impudence and has yet to confront you about it.
Second, you don’t give enough information about how the supposed spying occurs. Someone with a real story to tell would have reversed these things. He would have gone into detail about the incident or incidents involving his stepmother and he wouldn’t have volunteered the size and shape of his johnson.
The next mistake you make is the detailed description you volunteer of your super-hot MILF of a step mom — beautiful, thick, hairy pussy, big titties. How would you know she has a hairy pussy unless you’re spying on her? BUSTED!
And say, what’s a 20 year old doing still living at his father’s house anyway? Are you some kind of deadbeat slacker?
Should you drill your stepmother? Indeed, what could possibly go wrong with a bone-head son fucking his father’s wife? In your dreams, Mike. In your dreams!
Even though Mike here is full of shit, there may be others in my audience who are really struggling with issues of intra-family sex. So I’d like to take this opportunity to discuss this very thorny issue a bit. Incest, particularly the heterosexual kind, or the adult to child type, is considered taboo and a serious crime in nearly every culture, both past and present. There’s plenty of good reason for this, not least of which is issue of inbreeding. But the genetic concerns aside, the most devastating thing about incest is the secrecy. No one violates this universal taboo in the open. The secrecy and the inevitable shame and guilt will, sure as shootin’, destroy a family dynamic.
Even when the intra-family sex is not technically incest — sex between blood relatives — like Mike’s fantasy with his fantasy step mom — the secrecy, the violation of the inherent family bond of trust and the inescapable guilt and shame will destroy the relationship between the perpetrators as well as destroy the family.
If you find yourself in a seductive situation with family member, don’t give in to the
temptation. Even a seemingly harmless encounter between consenting adults will inevitably have dire consequences for all concerned.
Finally, because the incest taboo is so strong and so universal it also creates the perfect environment for equally powerful fantasy development. Take Mike as an example. This lad’s fertile imagination, coupled with an overactive libido and too much time on his hands, has created the quintessential jack-off material for horny adolescent. He imagines himself man enough to fish in the same waters as his old man. Titillating whimsy for sure and definitely lots of boy juice will be spilt into wadded up Kleenex. But that’s precisely where it needs to say — as a cherished albeit forbidden fantasy.
- Finally, we have a follow-up question from a fellow with a ball problem. This guy wrote me to tell me he thinks he might have an abnormality in his nut sack. I wrote back to him: “I applaud you taking note of your balls in an inquisitive sort of way. Good for you! But you should also have at least a rudimentary understanding of your testicular anatomy. So that when you do your self-exam, you can have some sense about what it is you are examining.” To that purpose, I offered a medical diagram for him to look at. Despite my promptings to take his huevos to a doctor for a look see, he decided to write to me once again. D’oh!
Name: anoras
Gender:
Age: 47
Location: Northridge CA
Thank you so much for your previous reply and for the diagram. Yes, I’ve seen it before but really didn’t look at it precisely — Ooops. So let’s see, the thing that goes into the testicles and that gangs up to the top of the testicle, that must be what I am referring to. Feeling my balls now I realize that it is at the top and not the bottom. Can I conclude that maybe I did feel it at that time on the top and thought it at the bottom, and/or that at that time maybe I my testicle turned around for some reason? Next, at the area where it is globulous, if pressure is placed on it, would it have a pain feeling rather than applying pressure anywhere else on the testicle? That is the question I’m asking, whether there are any areas on the testicle that you would naturally feel lumps and/or pain with any pressure. The next question would be if there are ways that the testicles can be turned around and when they do can they be readjusted. Thanks in advance for your understanding and great responses.
Sheesh, darling, take your nuts to a freakin’ doctor already, why don’t cha?
Since I’m not there, while you root around in your groin, I can’t see what you’re referring to. And even if I were there watching you poke and prod and I could feel what you feel, I wouldn’t hazard a guess about what’s going on with you. I am not a physician!
You ask again about lumps. Here’s a rule of thumb for us all: If you got lumps of any sort see a doctor. You ask again about pressure and pain. Since I have no way of knowing what kind of pressure you are applying, all I can say is, if you’re applying lots of pressure, it’s probably gonna hurt. If your applying only light pressure and it hurts, I’d guess there’s a problem — see your doctor.
And no, I’ve never heard of inverted testicles — see your doctor!
Ok, audience, what have we learned in today’s lesson? If any of us has a concern about what we think might be an abnormality in our naughty parts…or any other part for that matter, don’t write me…more than once…go see the doctor. Get it? Got it? GOOD.
Good luck ya’ll
Name: Anonymous
Gender:
Age: 22
Location: Phoenix
Dear Dr. Dick, I’m a pretty good looking guy, with a pretty average penis size, with a pretty average ego and confidence level. I am unable to make a first move. Whenever the situation rises, I become nervous as a little girl and the only thing I can think of is the awkwardness of rejection. Its really starting to throw me off balance when I cant get the physical attention I need, you know? It’s starting to make me think I’m gay also, which is totally fucking with my head. Help me out dock, what’s going on?
Well, anonymous, the fact that you couldn’t even bring yourself to include your first name on this anonymous submission form, or even think up a plausible substitute marks you as a world-class wimp. And hey, here’s a tip, stop comparing your total lack of cojones to being a girl or being gay. You are neither — a girl don’t need no balls and gay men have ‘em. You, on the other hand, need to grow yourself a pair, pal
So you’re 22, a pretty good-looking guy (or so you report) with an average sized dick (although I don’t see what that has to do with anything), and yet you still are stumped on how to connect with a chick. Holy cow, did you miss junior high?
Is there anything about you that a woman might find interesting? Are you intelligent, witty, fun to be with, a good conversationalist, sensitive, kind, a good cook, romantic…are you rich? Listen chum, you’re gonna need more to recommend you than bein’ pretty good lookin’ and a modestly sized peanut.
“I can’t get the physical attention I need…” I’m gonna go way out on a limb here and guess you mean you can’t get laid, right? Maybe you oughta work on your presentation. I mean, what self-respecting woman is gonna want to put out for someone as desperate
as you.
Start by getting off the pity-pot and learn to handle rejection. Don’t take it personal, rejection is just part of being a grownup. Also, jettison the notion that women are put on this earth simply to satisfy men’s physical needs. That’s so freakin’ Neanderthal.
Put your pride aside and start connecting with women as friends, not as potential fuck meat. , Sex flows from intimacy for most women. If you take the time to get to know a woman first, without that lean and hungry sex-starved look that I just know you have, you’ll find that, unless you are a totally dorky klutz, even you may get laid sooner or later.
Name: Carol
Gender: Female
Age: 28
Location: Montreal
I like oral sex, but my new BF doesn’t know what he’s doing down there. He’s really sweet and I like him a lot. Unfortunately, he thinks he’s like this really great lover when actually he sucks…and not in a good way. I know he reads your column, he was the one that turned me on to your site, so could you give him some pointers on how to orally pleasure a woman. He doesn’t listen to me.
Instead of me, who has no pussy, pontificating on the joys of muff diving, I turned to my #1 friend of the lesbitarian persuasion, Joy. Not only does she have her very own chuff, she sure as shootin’ knows her way around other gravy boats as well. I shared your message with her and asked for her advice. I figure, if you wanna learn how to do something right, ya talk to a pro. Simply put, no one sucks cock as good as a queer; no one gobbles clam like a dyke. Enough said!
Joy’s first comment was…and I quote. “What’s this chick doin’ with a dude? If she wants good head, she should bed a dyke. Once you go lezzie, you never go back.” Ahhh, Joy is such a…joy!
Ok, so giving a chick some head is about the most perfect sexual thing you can do for a woman. It makes her feel special. What woman doesn’t groove on knowin’ her partner finds her finger-lickin’ good? And maybe that’s a real good place to start this tutorial. If you don’t like the taste or smell of pussy juice, give up on the idea that you’ll be a fabulous lover. However, if you want to give this whole muff diving thing a try, but you don’t know if you can handle your partner smell, or she’s unsure about you bein down there, because she thinks she might smell, you guys could start off by showering or bathing together.
Many women prefer oral to intercourse, because it has the potential to give her an exceptional orgasm. And for all those gals out there who need loads of direct clitoral work to get off, mouth to clit stimulation is one of the easiest, most enjoyable ways to get make that happen.
Joy says that the biggest mistake a guy can make with a pussy is divin’ in without knowing his way around. And like I always say, ladies, it is absolutely up to you to introduce your partner to your particular beaver. Remember, just because he may have been with other women, that don’t make him an expert on your parts. Get it? Got it? GOOD!
The novice cunt lapper will do well to approach this amazing piece of human anatomy very gently…at first. If the woman you’re eatin’ wants it more vigorous, she will ask for it. So relax and enjoy! If all this licking and sucking isn’t a turn on for you, it won’t be much of a pleasure for her, either. So, if you’re heart is not in it; I say don’t even bother.
Don’t make the mistake that Carol’s boyfriend makes. Listen to the feedback you’re gettin on the job you’re doin’. If you’re not gettin’ feedback, ask for it. Just don’t talk with your mouth full. Once you hit on something that works with the gal you’re with, stick with it for a while. Unless of course you’re trying to drive her wild with some tongue teasing.
Joy insists that a soft tongue and a relaxed jaw works best. And believe me, she knows of what she speaks. She always starts out licking her pal from vaginal entrance up to her 
clit. She follows the outer edges of her pal’s pussy along both sides —slowly at first, then more rapidly. Sometimes she’ll even throw in a little raspberries — you know, the mouth vibration you make when you force breath through lightly closed lips. Joy swears by this technique, don’t cha know! Sounds like so much fun I kinda wish I had me a cooch.
Don’t be caught with idle hands while you’re eating=out-at-the-Y. Gently press her two outer vaginal lips together then run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time. Try poking your tongue into her vagina. The majority of nerve endings in a typical woman’s vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Target them with a darting tongue motion. Insert a hardened tongue into her hole. Try moving your tongue in and out, as well as in circles around the inside of her opening.
Spread her outer vaginal lips with your fingers. With your tongue pointed, gently flick your tongue around her clit. Feel free to roam around in there, but keep coming back to her clit, because it’s the most sensitive area…just like your dick head, you dickhead!
Some women find the direct approach too intense. If this is the case with your woman, blow a stream of warm breath over and around the clit. This lighter breathy touch might just do the trick. Again, be sure to ask for feedback and then do precisely what she says.
Once your partner is good and hot and juicy wet, Joy suggests you kick things up a notch. Spread her lips, expose her clit and give it a quick little suck. If this hits the spot, you might want to lightly pull back her clitoral hood and repeat the quick sucking motion. Joy assures me that this feels incredible, and it’s just the thing to do if you feel
like tormenting your partner. Now take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This, combined with fingering her vag, will usually produce an intense orgasm.
Keep your tongue and hands busy flicking and massaging, poking and prodding lapping and kneading. In other words, find out what she likes and how she likes it and let her have it just that way.
Finally, Joy suggests you surprise the little woman by having a mint or an ice chip in your mouth while you go down on her. These can create a very intense tingling sensation and will enhance your performance immeasurably.
Name: Jake
Gender: male
Age: 23
Location: Omaha
I’m 23, and I’ve been dating a 30-year-old chick for nearly a year now. I come from a very conservative Christian upbringing and I love that she is more experienced than me. My girlfriend likes to tie me up. I’m a college gymnast so I have very defined muscles. They are a huge turn on for my girlfriend, which I guess explains why she likes to see me struggle against the rope. I get real turned on too when I’m tied up. Sometimes she teases my penis and testicles with a feather or a piece of leather, which drives me wild. I’m worried though, because I think this is gonna warp me somehow. Do you think this is perverted? Why is it so much fun?
Ahhh yeah Jake, I do think it’s perverted. I think your girlfriend is a big fat pervert and I think you’re still a little tiny pervert, but well on your way to being a big fat pervert, just like your girlfriend.
And why is this bondage thing so much fun? It’s such a blast because it’s perverted,
nasty and forbidden, silly! One can only guess what your fundamentalist Christian mom and dad would think about their star athlete son trussed up like a thanksgiving turkey while a considerably older dominatrix punishes his family jewels. I fear this apple has fallen a great distance from the tree, right Jake? I absolutely love it!
Bondage is fun for you because you have to relinquish all your male privilege — Christian, preppy frat boy control — to this unlikely kinky lady friend of yours. And what’s even better, you let her have her way with you. I have a feeling you’re not telling us everything about what she does to you when you’re all tied up. I’d be willing to guess there is a lot more perversion here than meets the eye. Not that that’s a bad thing, necessarily. I think it can be very therapeutic as well as amazingly hot to be completely helpless and in the control of another.
For a dominatrix, like your girlfriend, there is, as you say, the visual aspect to bondage. I think she’d agree, there’s nothing sexier then young masculine, muscular male flesh wrapped in ropes while having his cock and balls available for discipline. It’s the ultimate form of objectification. And, I might add, that you guys are turning all of 
society’s conventions — particularly the sacred “male as top” rule — on their head. YOU GO!
This has got to turn your crank, on some base psychological level too. I would so love to know how you and your girlfriend met. How she introduced you to the perv lifestyle. And more importantly, how you came to submit so unequivocally. That’s the real story here.
Jake, you are on the cutting edge. And I think you have some sense as to how radical your play really is, don’t you? I think it’s the radical nature of your play that gives you pause, right? It’s not the actual bondage, discipline and possible humiliation that concerns you as much as you feel like you are losing your moral moorings. Nothing about what you are currently experiencing at the hand of this woman has any connection to the life you were brought up in. That has to be a bit of a jolt, which makes it all the more enticing. And there is virtually no turning back, is there? Once you’ve tasted the sweetness of surrender, vanilla will never again be enough.
Trust me, none of this makes you a bad person. On the contrary, if you embrace and
integrate all this new information about yourself and live your life with authenticity and integrity, it will make you exemplary.
I do have one fear, however. I fear that one-day you will begin to second guess this harmless submissive eroticism and cave to the dictates of the popular culture. The worst case scenario would be for you to continue to enjoy your BDSM lifestyle on Saturday nights, then rush off to church on Sunday morning to join the choir of sanctimonious hypocrites who do one thing in private, but publicly endorse and promote a sex-negative message of repression and denial. That, my friend, would be criminal…and a real perversion.
Good luck ya’ll
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