Short Fuse

Name: Marcos
Gender: Male
Age: 28
Location: new york city
I may have premature ejaculation, meaning after I’m exited I can’t hold it in (ejaculation) for more than a couple of minutes, which worries me regarding the pleasure I can provide… Suggestions, other than the eventual doctor visit?

The curious thing about premature ejaculation is that what constitutes “premature” is pretty subjective. Some men report that they can only last a minute or two, others say they can last only 15 minutes, but all consider themselves as premature ejaculators. I’m not trying to suggest that PE is a figment of one’s imagination, on the contrary. Any guy who isn’t satisfied with the control he has, or does not have, over his ejaculation may fall into this general category. In the same way, lasting longer, whatever longer, might mean is a relatively easy thing to accomplish. All ya gotta do is work at prolonging the pleasure.premature-ejaculators-anonymous

Let’s start with how you jack-off, Marcos. If I had to guess these sessions are speedy little affairs, right? A quick wank just to relieve sexual tension is a good thing, but if that’s all the self-pleasuring you do it will interfere with your partnered pleasure later. Look at it this way, if you body is sensitized to cumin’ quickly like while jerkin’ off just relieve tension, then that’s how it’ll respond later, when you’re with a partner.

I suggest that you reevaluate your self-pleasuring activity. Most, if not all, of your masturbation should be dedicated to full body masturbation. The object in this kind of masturbation is to play with the sex tension that develops in self-pleasuring and to delay the your ejaculation for as long as you can.

Here’s how it works, as you become turned on you build up sexual tension. I want you to move the sexual energy all over your body as you stroke your cock. Touch and pleasure your whole body — feet, nipples, asshole, what have you. Make the pleasure last as long as you can. As you approach the point of ejaculation, stop stroking your dick and concentrate your play on the other parts of your body. When the urge to cum subsides, you can start to stroke your dick again. Do this over and over till you can last 30 minutes. By the way, some people refer to this as edging or edge play — coming to the edge of cuming and then backing away. Get it? Got it? Good!

Premature_Ejaculation_ManThe purpose of this exercise, I mean besides the joy of gettin’ off on your whole body, is to teach your body a different way to respond to cock stimulation. If you practice this method conscientiously it will increase your sexual stamina when you’re with a partner too.

I also have in mind a swell sex toy that will help you overcome your premature ejaculation. I discovered the ideal device to help you or anyone else that wants to last longer. As you may already know I have a product reviews site, cleverly named: DrDickSexToyReviews.com.  I post reviews of all kinds of adult products — sex toys for sure, but also condoms, lubes, fetish gear as well as educational and enrichment videos. I reviewed the Fleshlight way back in 2007.

To make a long story short, the Fleshlight is, as I said, is a male masturbator, but a very unique one. I wrote in my review:icejack.jpg

“I always like to take my time with a new toy. Ya know, to get a sense of how the thing works and feels. This was particularly the way to go with the Fleshlight. Masturbating with one of these puppies has several advantages to your basic hand job. First, there is a delightful silkiness, and a tight consistent pressure on your cock throughout each stroke. In this regard pluggin’ a Fleshlight is very different than pluggin’ any human orifice I know. But that’s not a bad thing, mind you. Consider the guy who is dealing with premature ejaculation, for example. I’m positive that if he used a Fleshlight to train himself to last longer, he’d have way more success than if he just used his hand. This is an ideal device for practicing delaying one’s orgasm. And you can bank on that!”

Now when you’re having sex with your partner; do the same thing as when you’re doing your full-body masturbation. Spread the sexual energy around. Don’t focus on your pud. Concentrate on stalling your orgasm through the techniques you learned in your self-pleasuring. If you’re getting close to cumin’, pull out of penetration till you regain control; then reinsert.

This is going to take some practice, but I think it’s worth the effort. Once you mastered this there are other more advanced techniques that I can turn you on to.

One final thing, if you are concerned about the amount of pleasure you can provide, short fuse or not, I always encourage the men I work with in my private practice to look to pleasuring their partners before they even get warmed up themselves. But even after you cum, you still have a mouth and hands and fingers with witch to pleasure your partner, so there’s never an excuse to leave a partner unsatisfied regardless of your own sexual response cycle.

Good luck

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