IN THE MOOD
Hey Sex Fans!
We came dangerously close to having a fantastic Sex EDGE-U-cation podcast for ya today. Unfortunately, my scheduled guest had technical difficulties and we had to put off the interview till next week. Such is life!
In lieu of a podcast, we have some swell Q&A.
After a guy ejaculates can he have another ejaculation? Like after I cum if I put on a cock ring will it stay hard enough to continue with intercourse and achieve another orgasm? I basically want to cum twice in a row.
Yep, that’s doable. All depends on your particular refractory period and how turned on you are. Let’s take a quick look at the male sexual response cycle again, just so we understand what we’re talkin’ about. Ok?
The sexual response cycle refers to the sequence of physiological changes that occur as we become sexually aroused and move through to afterglow. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. Both women and men experience these phases of course, although the timing usually is very different for each gender. In addition, the intensity of the response and the time spent in each phase will vary from person to person and from situation to situation. That’s why I say cuming twice in a row is doable. But is it gonna happen for you? I guess we’ll just have to wait and see, huh?
Ok, Phase 1: Excitement (or the boner stage)
- Muscle tension increases.
- Heart rate quickens and breathing accelerates.
- Our skin may become flushed particularly on our chest and back).
- Our nipples may become erect.
- Blood flow to the genitals increases, thus the boner.
- Our balls swell, our sack tightens, and we may drip precum. Mmmm, precum!
Phase 2: Plateau (or the strokin’ or pumpin’ stage)
- Everything in phase 1 intensifies.
- Our balls may pull up into body cavity.
- Our breathing, heart rate and blood pressure increase.
- Our toes curl, face contorts and hands clench.
- Involuntary muscle contractions begin.
- Blood pressure, heart rate and breathing excelerate.
- There’s a rapid intake of oxygen.
- Muscles in the feet spasm.
- There is a sudden, forceful release of sexual tension.
- Rhythmic contractions of the muscles at the base of our cock result in the ejaculation of spunk.
- A “sex flush” may appear all over our body.
Phase 4: Resolution (or the “I need a nappy” stage)
- During this phase, the body slowly returns to its normal level of functioning, and the parts of your body that swelled and engorged return to their previous size and color.
- This phase is marked by a general sense of well-being, enhanced intimacy and, often, fatigue.
- Most women are capable of a rapid return to the orgasm phase with further sexual stimulation and may experience multiple orgasms.
Men, on the other hand need recovery time after orgasm, this period is called the refractory period. This doesn’t have to be the end of sex. Like you suggest, a cockring may prevent your dick from going soft. But don’t count on an immediate second ejaculation, even if your dick stays hard. Don’t forget, the duration of the refractory period varies and is situational. It will also increase as we age.
I am considering the social usage of Viagra or Cialis to improve sexual performance. Which of the two would you recommend for recreational usage?
I don’t recommend recreational use of prescription drugs, particularly these vascular dilators. And certainly not when used in conjunction with other non-prescription drugs. Maybe you ought consider a low-tech solution like a cockring instead.
I hasten to add that I’m not averse to using some drugs recreationally. But I think that we’d do well to stick to those that are more natural. The less processing involved and fewer added chemicals the better, in my humble opinion.
Did you know that health officials in the UK and here in the US are investigating reports of blindness among men using Viagra and Cialis? Why risk that if ya don’t have to.
I’m really concerned with the alarming rise in recreational use of these drugs by younger men, men in their 20’s and 30’s. And like I said, this is even more troubling when they combine these drugs with ecstasy, cocaine, or crystal meth. If your young body is having difficulty producing an erection at this tender age, then you need medical attention ASAP.
Besides the risk of blindness, there are several other reasons why you ought not abuse Viagra or a similar drug just so you can have wood that lasts for hours. Your body will habituate itself to the substance and, in time, you won’t be able to get it up at all without ever increasing doses of these drugs. This will surely fuck up your cardiovascular system big time. In fact, you may very well be inducing the very sexual dysfunction the drug is supposed to help.
Consider the person who overuses eye drops or lip balm or any other otherwise innocuous over the counter health and beauty products. Their bodies stop making the natural substances that these products are intended to assist. It’s counterproductive and it’s ill advised. And if this is a problem with relatively harmless over the counter products, you know you are playing with fire when you abuse powerful prescription meds.
I want to make love kisses on my girlfriend’s vagina. But I never did this. What can I do?
Love kisses on her vagina, huh? You Russians are so romantique!
I think you are talkin about some good old fashioned cunnilingus, right? Or as we say here in the US or A — eatin’ out at the Y, munchin’ carpet, muff divin’, pussy lappin’ and what have you.
If your girlfriend is as unfamiliar with gettin’ love kisses on her vagina as you are at givin’ them, you might want to give her a head’s up on what you plan to do. Ya see some of our women folk are none too keen on the idea. They have it in their head that their pussy is icky and not for oral consumption. This is very unfortunate, but it is what it is. If you think you’re gonna get a lot of resistance from your lady friend, you might start kissing her on the face and neck, then to the tops of her tits, her nipples, and her belly. This will give her an idea where you’re headin’. If you’re doin’ this right, hopefully she’ll be so busy enjoying herself she’ll not protest your trip south.
Proceed slowly. Make sure you’re you’re both comfortable. If you’re lying down, you best be on your stomach between her legs so that your string of kisses is as effortless as possible. Have a pillow ready to shove under her hips to raise her a bit if she’s willing to proceed. If, by the time you get to her pussy, she doesn’t try to stop you, you’re home free. Basically she is giving you tacit permission to proceed. Of course you could check in with her and ask if you can continue. But sometimes, in delicate situations like this, you may be better off keeping the conversation to a minimum. She might be fine with it if she doesn’t actually have to agree to it. Women are like that sometimes.
Try scooting her butt to the side of the bed while you kneel on the floor between her legs. This will give you all the access you’ll need. And hey, don’t go divin’ right in there, for heaven’s sakes. Take a moment to two to admire the beautiful spectacle before you. Lordy, lordy ain’t that a sight for sore eyes.
Gently nuzzle, kiss, and lick her inner thighs and the area around her vulva. With a little luck your gal-pal will be so aroused she’ll begin to guide your head into her snatch. Lick her outer lips. Run your tongue up and down them. Nibble them gently with your lips. Next, work your tongue in between the outer lips to caress her smaller, thinner inner lips. Circle her vaginal opening and perhaps dart your tongue inside her cunt.
I hope you know your way around a woman’s genitals, because If you don’t you’ll be bumbling around down there to no great effect. And, while you may get an “A” for effort, you might very well wreck the moment by being too aggressive on her more sensitive parts. Her clit is her magic button. If you don’t know a clit from a hole in your head, do some research before you head south.
Approach her clit very slowly and gently. Some women enjoy a tongue lashing directly on her clit. Others find direct contact too intense, even uncomfortable. Now is a good time to check in with her. Ask for direction on how she wants you to proceed. She may prefer you to circle her clit with your tongue, avoiding direct contact.
If your gal is unfamiliar with this kind of pleasure, she may not kow to direct you. If that’s the case, you’re gonna have to ask direct questions like: Do you want it lighter? Or would you like more pressure? More of this? Not so much of that? Soon you will be able to tell on your own by observing her pelvic movements and listening to her moan if you’re doing a good job. Sometimes the best communication is non-verbal.
While you’re down there, why not employ a couple fingers to spread things apart? Add a little massage. Use the tip of your tongue, then the flat of your tongue, then your lips as you move around her vulva. All three feel a little different and each provide subtly different sensations. Some chicks love pussy raspberries, you know…
Come up for air from time to time. Look into here eyes, caress and massage her boobs. Try slipping a finger or two into her mouth so she can suck them while you’re licking her. Or move into a 69 position and enjoy a little blowjob with you’re eating her out.
You may want to incorporate some ass play too. Insert a lubed finger into her butt hole. Just make sure that whatever goes in her ass doesn’t then come in contact with her cunt. You definitely don’t want to introduce bacteria that can cause a urinary infection.
Good luck ya’ll