The Erotic Mind of Shanna Germain — Podcast #111 — 03/30/09

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Hey sex fans,

I have an outstanding show in store for you today.  I have the pleasure of introducing you to an extremely talented young woman.  She is a journalist, an editor, an award-winning poet, a summervacationprolific author of short stories and avid sports enthusiast.  She has a wicked sense of humor and an immense erotic mind worthy of our investigation.

Devoted fans of the best written erotica will, no doubt, be familiar with my guest, Shanna Germain.  Her work is everywhere, in print as well as online. Shanna is my latest guest in this series of interviews with noted erotic artists called The Erotic Mind.  I am chatting with these ingenious people in hopes of uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

For more of Shanna and her work, be sure to visit her site HERE!

Shanna and I discuss:

  • Writing under her own name.
  • Evolving from freelance writer to erotic author.
  • What sparks the images that become her erotica.
  • Building sexual tension in a petite work of art.
  • Skillfully writing in different voices.

As a special treat, Shanna will share with us two mouth-watering selections of the fruit of her Erotic Mind.   The first is a sultry poem.  The second piece will be of particular interest to those in my audience facing life-threatening illness.  Don’t miss this people!

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Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by:  Fleshlight & FleshJack.

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Dr Dick does the Seattle Fetish & Fantasy Festival

Hey Sex Fans!

Get a load of this.  It’s the Seattle Fetish & Fantasy Festival, don’t cha know!

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Lookin’ for a little somethin’ that will perk up that ho-hum sex life of yours?  I thought so.  Well then, here’s your opportunity to learn a few new tricks.  (Along with a slew of other sex-positive adults of every persuasion.)

I’ll be there, so you know it’s gonna be good.  Hell, if you’re lucky, and register early, you can even take one of my workshops.  YOU CAN REGISTER ONLINE!

April 10-11, 2009
2 Days of Classes,
Music & Food

Be there or be square!

Join us and expand the boundaries of your sex life and meet other interesting like-minded people in the safety and beauty of New Horizons and their stunning, 13-acre adults-only facility.  Learn more about sex. Enjoy sex.  And, come away with a unique, once-in-a-lifetime experience at the Seattle Fetish & Fantasy Festival.

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KinkedKenny, Part 2 — Podcast #110 — 03/25/09

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Hey sex fans,

We’re back with my guest, that bad boy of kink photography, Kenny Lee, a.k.a. KinkedKenny. Kenny is also an ardent practitioner of the lifestyle he so skillfully captures in his photography.kenny02

This is Part 2 our chat in this podcast series called Sex EDGE-U-cation.   As you know, this series is all about the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles.
If you somehow missed Part 1 of conversation, look for last week’s podcast, #108 on Dr Dick’s PODCAST PAGE.  Or simply use the search function.  Type in podcast #108; don’t forget to include the # sign.

For more of Kinked Kenny, be sure to visit his site HERE!

Kenny and I discuss:

  • The intersection between his personal and professional life.
  • BDSM as both recreation and catharsis.
  • Melding graphics and photography to create new art.
  • Digitally capturing real men playing out their fantasies.
  • His future plans.
  • His sexual heroes.

 

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: FetishMovies.com.

The Erotic Mind of Benoît Prévot — Podcast #109 — 03/23/09

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Hey sex fans,

Today, I have yet another installment in my series of interviews called The Erotic Mind.  You’ll notice right away that there’s a distinctly international flair to this week’s podcast.  Why?  Because I have the good fortune of introducing you to an up and coming erotic artist, who joins us from his home in Paris, France, don’t cha know.  His name is Benoît Prévot.moi

This all started some weeks ago when I was aimlessly poking around some of my favorite websites.  One site in particular, the beautiful and thoughtful Fairview (A site, I might add, that is a work of art all on its own.) is the loving creation of a fellow blogger, Sue.  It was on her handsome site that I first encountered this Parisian wonder.  When I happen upon Ben’s comic illustrations I knew for certain that I had to chat with him for this series.

If you are like me, and love smart, sexy erotic art with just a dash of humor, be sure to check out Benoît’s lusty drawings and illustrations as well as his insightful and informative blog on his site: site: benoitprevot.com.

I encourage you to ask him how you can purchase his original artwork.  Because I am of the mind that no serious collector of erotic art should be without a Prévot or two; that is if ya ask me.

Ben and I discuss:

• How he got his start as an artist; as an erotic artist.
• Where he finds his models.
• The difference between erotic and pornographic.
• How he imbues his artistic creations with life.
• Eroticizing the un-erotic.
• Advice for the novice erotic artist

See a slideshow of some of Ben’s images.  Click on the thumbnails below.

BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes.  You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe.  I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

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Luscious LELO, Part 1

Hey sex fans,

The Dr Dick Review Crew has been in a complete tizzy lately. Even these hardened veterans of the adult product review trenches were totally gaga when I put out the word that I had a slew of LELO products to review. Everyone on the crew couldn’t wait to get their grubby little hands all over these top of the line sex toys…I mean Pleasure Objects.

That”s right, sex fans, LELO not only reinvented the sex toy; they’ve evolved it into an object of pleasure. And trust me, it’s not just semantics. LELO products are indeed in a class of their own.

The Dr Dick Review Crew will be spending several weeks putting the LELO line through its paces. Whatever you do, don’t miss a single installment!

Today, we feature the G-spot LELO Pleasure Object — GIGI.

Review Crew members, Gina & Kevin, do the honors

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Gina: “I’ve been salivating over the LELO line for ages. I’ve seen them online, in magazine ads and I’ve even handled a couple of them at Babeland, Seattle. But I never expected to actually own one.”
Kevin: “I’m totally blown away too. These babies are stunning.”
Gina: “I never thought I’d own a LELO because they are kinda pricey. But after using
GIGI for a few weeks I can say that they are worth every cent. First off, they are rechargeable; so right away you save on the cost of battery replacement. Which, to my mind, not only makes LELO price competitive, but a bargain in the long run.”
Kevin: “
GIGI is a sensual work of art; it’s creatively innovative and it is GREEN! Anyone who reads our reviews on a regular basis knows that the Review Crew gives extra points for toys that are rechargeable.”
Gina: “GREEN is IN, fellow consumers!”
Kevin: “Also anyone who reads our reviews on a regular basis knows that I am like totally into my ass and gigi_deep_rose_mv1prostate. I know that
GIGI is marketed exclusively as a G-spot vibe, but I’m here to tell you (and the LELO people) that GIGI is dyn-O-mite on a dude’s P-spot too.”
Gina: “Kevin knows of what he speaks! Over the last year or so we’ve tried numerous insertables in his butt. Most were packaged as “women only” toys, but we didn’t care.”
Kevin: “I think toy producers are missing a load of crossover sales opportunities because they often focus on a specific gender in advertising. I mean Gina and I totally turned the WE-Vibe marketing concept on its head in our review (#13).”
Gina: “
GIGI is made from medical grade s ilicone, which give s it a velvety feel that is deliciously soft and warm. It has approximately 10cm of insertable length and the G-spot (or in this P-spot) flat and slanted tip has a circumference of 10.5cm. It takes about 2 hours to fully charge this thing. Unlike other rechargeable toys, you’ll know it’s fully charged when the light in the handle goes from flashing to a solid light. And a full charge will give you at least an hour and a half of amazing vibration.”
Kevin: “The power and adjust button is in the ergonomic handle.
GIGI has 5 modes of vibration with 4 speed settings. It’s amazingly powerful for such a little thing. So you can knock yourself out in more ways than one. It’s also super quiet. This thing has quality written all over it.”
Gina: “There was a time, not to long ago, that I would have been too embarrassed to watch Kevin pleasure himself. I thought masturbation, especially if it involved him inserting something into his bum, was something he should do privately. I can’t believe how uptight I once was.”
Kevin: “It was a struggle to break down some of her preconceived ideas about sex in general and masturbation in particular. But she’s totally into it now, I’m happy to report. And we’ve learned so much about pleasuring one another from watching each other pleasure ourselves.”
Gina: “I now absolutely love watching Kevin work his butt. It is such a turn on for me. He always gets the hardest erections when he’s stimulating his prostate. And he always shoots a giant load too. I often find myself sitting back with my own Pleasure Object and trying to keep pace with Kevin.”
Kevin: “If the truth be know, Gina has, on several occasions, jumped on my raging boner when I’m fuckin my ass with a dildo. I think it’s great that she feels free to take control.”
Gina: “It’s true, I can often barely contain myself.”
Kevin: “My first time with
GIGI was fantastic. I lubed it up. (Water based lube only with a fine silicone toy like this.) And nuzzled the flattened and slanted head against my hole. I worked the vibe options, getting a feel for where this baby was gonna take me. With only a little effort on my part the uniquely shaped head disappeared in my ass and hit home directly on my prostate. The flat slanted tip connected with my P-spot and made my eyes roll back in my head with pleasure. It’s like it was made for this purpose. I mean, how many guys are doing without GIGI thinking it’s only for girls?”
Gina: “Like a butt-plug,
GIGI stays in place. When Kevin let go of the vibe to stroke his penis and stretch his scrotum, I reached over and took hold. This startled him out of his revelry, but the gentle rocking motion I added as well as the change in pulsation made him buck and groan. He is the most sexually expressive man I’ve ever known.”
Kevin: “Gina pretends she’s still a shy and retiring catholic school girl when it comes to ass play, but this girl knows how to ramp thing up down there. She denied me the orgasm I was aching for. She forbid me to touch my cock and balls while she worked my ass with
GIGI. She took hold of my nuts and started to slap them, lightly at first, then she really let me have it. Yanking on my sack stretched the skin on my dick shaft and made my cock stick out perpendicular to my belly. I was lovin’ it, big time.”
Gina: “Like I’ve mentioned before, I’ve developed into quite a little dominatrix; something I would never have discovered in myself had it not been for Kevin and his promptings.”
Kevin: “I love it when she’s the Dom; it’s such a turn on. I clamped down on
GIGI using my PC muscles, like if I was doing my Kegel exercises. Intense vibrations filled my groin then moved up to my navel.”
Gina: “I let go of
GIGI, because I knew it would stay in place in Kevin’s butt and straddled his hips in a reverse cowgirl position. This way I was able to continue to pull on his testicles while rubbing his penis all over my vaginal lips and clit. I could even feel GIGI’s vibration in my pelvis. It was so hot!”
Kevin: “I begged for release, the vibration intensity increased with Gina sitting on my lower abdomen. I could hardly stand it. She was rocking back and forth, my dick head barley entering her pussy.”
Gina: “I came twice in rapid succession, then had mercy on my poor butt-boy Kevin. I just touched the underside of his penis with one hand and sperm shot out of him like a canon. He made this incredible animal noise and thrashed beneath me. This brought me to climax one more time and then I slid off him.”
Kevin: “I swear I came so hard it was time to notify the next of kin.”
Gina: “I would have my turn with
GIGI the very next day. Basically Kevin and I changed positions. I began to pleasure myself with the vibe; first outside my vagina, then inside. Kevin insisted that I surrender myself to him, as he did to me. And master that he is, he orally pleasured me while he altered the GIGI pulsations on my G-spot. I was over the top in a matter of a couple minutes.”
Kevin: “It’s so much fun sharing our toys. We play really well together.”
Gina: “Because silicone products are nonporous and hypoallergenic, care and cleaning are a snap. For everyday cleanup a mild soap and water wash is fine. However, if you’re gonna share your toys sterilizing is recommended. You can swish the silicone end of
GIGI in a pot of boiling water for a couple minutes, dry it off and then it’s ready to go. You can also wipe it down with a lint-free towel moistened with peroxide, rubbing alcohol or a 10% bleach solution.”
…full review here


ENJOY

Be sure to look for more LELO reviews in weeks to come.



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Sex EDGE-U-cation with KinkedKenny – Podcast #108 – 03/18/09

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Hey sex fans,

Today I have the distinct pleasure of welcoming a true original in the world of erotic photography, Kenny Lee, a.k.a. KinkedKenny.  He is also an ardent practitioner of the lifestyle he so skillfully captures in his art. kenny1

Kenny is my third guest in this new series of podcast interviews I’m doing called Sex EDGE-U-cation.   We’re taking a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles.  But Kenny is also my first 2-fer guest, because he comfortably straddles both The Erotic Mind podcast series, that I do on Mondays, and this series I’m doing on Wednesdays. So we will be picking his brain on both topics.

Kenny is first and foremost a photographer, but he is also a storyteller.  He shoots fashion as well as kink, but whatever he shoots you can be sure that it will push the envelope.  His photography can be both exquisitely beautiful and stunningly disturbing.  And often his images are both of these things at the same time.

Besides being a brilliant photographer, he is in his very own element when exploring the world of kink.  Like his photos, Kenny is “Raw, Dark, Twisted and Real”.

Kenny and I discuss:

  • The transition from fashion photographer to kink photographer — InkedKenny to KinkedKenny.
  • Working with real people in the lifestyle and capturing the chemistry between the players.
  • His agenda:  to shake his audience out of their complacently by engaging us in his work.

Be sure to visit KinkedKenny at his website HERE!


Today’s podcast is bought to you by: Dr Dick’s Stockroom.

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Emerald Returns — Podcast #107 — 03/16/07

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Hey sex fans,

We’re back with my guest, that talented young erotic author, Emerald. This is Part 2 our chat in emerald_2this podcast series called The Erotic Mind.  As you know, we’ve been chatting with erotic artists of every stripe in the hope of uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

If you somehow missed Part 1 of this insightful and charming discussion look for last week’s podcast, #106 on my PODCAST PAGE.  Look for the tab at the top of this page.  Or use the search function; just type in podcast #106.  Don’t forget to include the # sign.

For more of Emerald, be sure to visit her site HERE!

Emerald and I discuss:

  • The connection between the erotic and the spiritual.
  • Writing for a female and/or male audience.
  • The difference between erotica and pornography.
  • The empowering and enriching nature of erotica.
  • Erotica as aphrodisiac.
  • Her inspirations and sexual heroes.

Emerald serves up another selection of her own erotica.

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Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

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Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: Hot Movies For Her.

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Sex Fans, The Dr Dick Review Crew has something totally wacky for ya today. It’s a WhackSock! Say WHAT? You heard me; a WhackSock. It’s a sock ya wear on your cock when ya wank. How fun is that? I guess it’s intended to keep your spooge off the furniture, don’t’ cha know.

This week’s Review Crew:

  • Glenn & Hank

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Glenn: “I got this huge smile on my face today, because I had a flashback to when I was a kid. I started masturbating when I was 11, but nothing came out till I was almost 13. Before I was able to ejaculate I could cum multiple time in one session. But once I started to shoot a wad when I wanked I could only cum once per session. Actually, I only had to wait a few minutes before I could resume my diddling.”
Hank: “I think they call that the ‘refactory period’. It’s part of a male’s sexual response cycle.”
Glenn: “Yeah, I know that! So as I was saying, before Professor Bingo over here interrupted me, I was surprised as all get out when I shot my first spunk. I thought I had injured myself. Since I was totally unprepared for the eruption I had to do something with the evidence ASAP. My mother would soon round the corner and come barging into my room.”
Hank: “Did she bust you spankin’ the monkey?”
Glenn: “Not that time, I’m happy to say! It took some quick thinkin on my part. But I label_low_20rez_1_-276x350discovered that ya could hide your boy juice in a dirty sock, and your old lady wouldn’t be the wiser.”
Hank: “Damn, you’re clever! I’d be willing to bet the just about every guy on the planet has dropped a load into a sock at one point or another.”
Glenn: “Yeah, it’s probably something in our DNA, huh? So anyway, that’s why I had to laugh when Dr Dick asked us to review the
WhackSock. My masturbation-obsessed youth came flooding back to me.”
Hank: “I know, I used to discard the socks I busted a nut in. I was afraid my mom would find me out. This, of course, backfired one day when my ever-vigilant mother uncovered a tangle of crusty socks in the trash. It didn’t take her long to put two and two together. This precipitated the big ‘sex talk’ with mommy that make my skin crawl. I was also marched off to confession to tell the priest about my disgusting and sinful behavior.”
Glenn: “I’ll bet the priest got off on that, huh?”
Hank: “Probably! I was a strappin’ young lad of over 6’ tall with ragin’ hormones and an unruly big dick. I was hung over 8” when I was just 15. It was so embarrassing, because I used to pop wood at the drop of a hat. I though having a big, precum drippon’ dick was a curse.”
Glenn: “Glad you got over that, cuz I love your one-eyed monster. But we digress! Let’s get whacksockback to the WhackSock. It’s a specifically designed cottony sock made for male masturbation. At least that’s what it says on the
WhackSock site.”
Hank: “Yep, it’s basically a tubesox; no bigger than what a young kid might wear on his feet. But it does stretch.”
Glenn: “And that’s where the fun began for us. Hank and I went to a costume party last month and our costumes consisted of a
WhackSock and nothing more. Hank’s trouser snake was the life of the party, literally and figuratively.”
Hank: “The stretchy cotton material could barely contain my johnson, so to speak.”
Glenn: “And it was all over when he got a boner! I loved it. I got to tell everyone that I am the lucky man that gets to have that hog up my ass whenever I want it. Tell me that didn’t make me the envy of all the queens at the party.”
Hank: “When we got home from the party, we both blissfully beat off into our
WhackSock, just like god intended.”

…full review here

ENJOY

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The Erotic Mind of Emerald — Podcast #106 — 03/09/09

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Hey sex fans,

I have an exceptionally delicious show in store for you today.  I have the pleasure of introducing you to one of the rising stars in the erotica firmament.  Her name is emerald_1Emerald.  (Don’t you just love how some folks get away with using only one name?  I gotta tell you that I tried that once myself.  I used refer to myself simply as — Dick.  Well, you can see right away how many problems there was with that moniker, huh?)

Anyway, the ever-charming and oh so smutty Emerald joins us as my latest guest in this series of interviews I’m doing with noted erotic artists called The Erotic Mind. As you know, we’ve been chatting with these ingenious people in hopes of uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

And as a special treat, Emerald will share with us a very delectable selection from the fruit of her Erotic Mind.   This will be of particular interest to the edgier folks in our audience.

To give you a little foretaste of what you are in for today, here’s Emerald writing about herself on her site:  “Emerald is an erotic fiction author and general advocate for human sexuality as informed by her deep appreciation of the beauty, value, and intrinsic nature of sexuality and its holistic relation to life.”

For more of this creative and sex-positive young woman, be sure to visit her site HERE!

Emerald and I discuss:

• Her philosophy about human sexuality
• Her nom de plume, and why.
• Her writing career and how it began.
• Creating petite works of literary art, one word at a time.
• Being a sex worker and its impact on her writing.

Emerald serves up a juicy morsel of her own erotica.

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for my podcasts on iTunes.  You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe.  I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: The Right Position Erotic Boutique.

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The Coast Is Clear

Name:  ??
Gender: Male
Age: 33
Location: Miami
I have two unrelated questions: 1. I love anal sex but am concerned that as I age I run the risk of eventually becoming incontinent due to the sexual activity down there. Is white_sneakersthis a valid concern or will my sphincter remain tight enough to hold everything in? I’ve read conflicting opinions. 2. My boyfriend likes the twinks. We’ve been together for about four years and even though I’m only a year younger (he‚s 35), part of the reason he’s attracted to me is my youthful appearance. We have a wonderful relationship — supportive and loving and the sex is great! We even have a semi-open relationship, which is working fine for us so far. However, I’m concerned that at some point he may try something with someone under 18. He enjoys visiting those Barely Legal type porn sites (which hold no interest for me and look illegal). I’ve discussed my concerns with him, and he says I have nothing to worry about because he’d never do anything. But on the other hand, he’s not the most disciplined person in the world. I’m worried that if the opportunity presented itself he wouldn’t be able to resist. If that happened, it would then present emotional and moral problems not to mention legal issues not just for him but (I’m assuming) for me as well. I guess
I’m not sure what my question is. I know the gay community (and really the world) is obsessed with youth, but does this sound like more than that?  Do I have a legitimate concern, or am I being a prude? Obviously you don’t know my boyfriend, but I can’t discern if he just enjoys the fantasy of a younger man/boy or if this could become a problem. If it’s just a fantasy then I have no problem letting him have his fun. Heck, he can fuck all the 20 year olds he wants as far as I’m concerned. (Maybe this stems from my insecurity of growing older even though he insists he will love me even when I’m old and grey). But, if this is more than a fantasy then what do I do?
Thanks, Dr. Dick! Your faithful reader

Let’s address your two concerns in turn.  First, regarding your ass sex question.  Your typical butt-pirate has nothing to worry about in terms of becoming incontinent.  However, you oughta do what every power bottom does to stay in tip-top shape down there — Kegel exercises.

Don’t know kegel exercises from a hole in your head?  Not to worry.  I’ve written and spoken so much about this timely topic, whicht applies to both men and women, I barely have the energy to repeat myself.  So I won’t!

All ya gotta do is use the SEARCH function in the sidebar to your right.  Simply type in the keyword “kegels” and PRESTO!  Just like magic, all my posting and podcasts that include that topic are displayed.  You can read and listen till your heart’s content.

To your other concern, the one about your BF’s interest in the barely-legal crowd; there’s not much you can do about this one way or another.  Most of the adult people I know who have a thing for the young ones keep it on a purely fantasy level.  Those who stray off the daydream path and onto a course of actual pursuit find themselves in all kinds of jeopardy.  Not lest of which is the ridiculous nature of the quest.  Sounds to me like your BF already knows all of this.  But if he doesn’t, it’ll be he who pays, not you.

My advice to you is; take him at his word and worry not.

Name: james
Gender: Male
Age: 48
Location: sutton in ashfield
I have large veins that stick out on my testicles are these anything to worry about

Some guys have smooth balls; some guys have hairy balls; some guys have veiny balls and some guy’s balls are all shriveled up. That’s all balls_uncutthere is to it.

As we age some of us develop varicose veins in our lower extremities.  It’s the force of gravity, don’t cha know.  Varicose veins can occur in our nut sack too.  Sometimes this is associated with wearing a too tight cockring for too long a time.  But it is just as likely to be an issue of genetics.  Not much you can do about it and there is no real danger.

If you aren’t experiencing any discomfort in your family jewels, things are probably ok and I wouldn’t worry.  However, if you are anxious about this, or there is soreness or tenderness or you have other concerns; take your huevos to an MD and have ‘em checked out.  Simple as all that!

Name: Marcus
Gender: Male
Age: 47
Location: Southeast US
I am intrigued by nipple suction pumps, but cannot find much information about their effectiveness on guys. How long do your nipples stay enlarged? Is there any risk or danger in using one of these contraptions? Thanks for any help/direction you can give!

Nipple play is fun for both women and men.  There are several ways of enlarging one’s nipples.  There are low-tech suction devices, metal stretchers and the more high-tech vacuum devices.  All of these systems are very popular.  Have a look in My Stockroom for some examples.  Just search the site using the key word “nipple”.

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Wireless Vibrating Nipple Clamps (D120) $32.00
Tit Tuggers (C656) $125.00
The Titilizer (A237) $16.50
10-Piece Cupping Set (B264) $57.00
Snake Bite Kit (A300) $8.00
Nipple Suction Device (B092) $18.00

If you are a casual tit-torturer your nipples will stay enlarged for a few hours.  If you are a hardcore tit-torturer you can completely and permanently alter the look of your nipples.  Is there a risk or is there danger?  Not unless you overdo it.

Name: Tara
Gender: Female
Age: 25
Location: Hoboken, NJ
I got this cute guy friend who’s asked if he can come on my vacation to Bangor, Maine (Stephen King’s home!). So I asked this guy, who’s single, if he wants one bed or two. He said it didn’t matter, so I booked one bed at the hotel. Does this mean he wants to have sex with me? I’m dumping down a ton of money, so I hope so!

How the hell should I know?  He could be hot to get in your pants, or he might simply need an all expense paid holiday.

Why not just ask him.  What’s with the coy routine?  Of course, you could do like the hippies used to do and tell your cute guy friend — “Ass, gas or grass!  No one rides for free.”

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Hi, I have a question that I can not ask anyone else so I found your web site and would really appreciate your advice. Ok, so when I have sex sometimes instead of cuming when I have an orgasm, I pee. Sometimes I do cum though. But when it feels really good and I release, I release pee instead of cum. I just want to know if this happens to other people, and why this happens. And can I fix this. What can I do to make this not happen? I don’t like it happening. I feel bad for my boyfriend who has to have pee on his penis. Please, please, please take the time to reply to me. Thank you for your time. Have a great day.
—   Anonymous.

Are you sure that what you are experiencing is pee?  Could it possibly be that you are ejaculating?  For a good deal of information on this, check out the site called The Clitoris.

Of course, lots of women feel like they have to pee when they cum.  In fact, lots of women actually do pee as they cum.

If indeed you are peeing when you cum, I’d say you are experiencing what we in the business call — stress incontinence.

Stress incontinence can happen just about any time.  Anxiety, stress, working out, jogging, fucking crreampie1can all trigger this type of incontinence.

Curiously enough, research shows that younger women actually have more stress incontinence during sex than do older women.  While only 3% of women over age 65 reported incontinence during sexual activity, 29% of women under age 60 did.

Regardless of the cause of the stress incontinence — nervousness, exercise or sex there is one common denominator.  It’s always related to the strength of a woman’s pelvic floor muscles. The weaker those muscles are, the more likely a woman will leak pee during physical exercise, fucking, sneezing or even laughing.

While many women experience stress incontinence from time to time, there’s a relatively simple solution to the problem. Your pelvic muscles and the tissues surrounding them get stretched out and damaged with time.  Pregnancies will also do a number on these muscles.  They also weaken with age.  And if you are overweight, well that will weaken pelvic floor muscles too as well as add to the likelihood of stress incontinence.

So you might be asking right about now, what IS this simple solution?  Why, it’s Kegel exercises, of course.  (See my response to the first correspondent above.)

Good luck ya’ll

Scott Daddy, Part 2 – Podcast #105 – 03/04/09

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Hey sex fans,

We’re back with my friend and colleague, Scott Mallinger, a.k.a. Scott Daddy; the BDSM nasty_pig_chaps2-credit_325x490journalist, lecturer, leather titleholder and Dom extraordinaire, don’t cha know.  This, of course, is Part 2 my of my chat with Scott in this podcast series called Sex EDGE-U-cation.    This series of interviews takes a look at the world of fetish sex, kink and alternative sexual lifestyles.  It touches on topics both familiar and exotic.  And we’ll be chatting with prominent educators, practitioners and advocates of unconventional sexual expressions and lifestyles from all over the world.

If you somehow missed Part 1 of this amusing yet provocative discussion look for last week’s podcast, #103 on Dr Dick’s PODCAST PAGE at the top of my site.  Or simply use the search function; type in the key words: “podcast #103”.  Don’t forget to include the # sign.

Be sure to visit Scott Daddy at his website HERE!

Scott and I discuss:

  • How he began his career as a Dom.
  • His public lectures, demonstrations and presentations.
  • Working with both men and women.
  • Mentoring newbees to the scene.
  • His sexual heroes.

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes.  You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe.  I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: FetishMovies.com.

James Lear Returns — Podcast #104 — 03/02/09

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Hey sex fans,

We’re back with that exceptional erotic author and novelist, the one and only James Lear.  This is img_1863Part 2 my of my chat with James in this podcast series called The Erotic Mind.  As you know, we’ve been chatting with erotic artists of every stripe in the hope of uncovering something of the creative process involved with this specialized art form.

If you somehow missed Part 1 of this delightful yet provocative discussion look for last week’s podcast, #102 on Dr Dick’s PODCAST PAGE at the top of the page.  Or use the search function; just type in podcast #102.  Don’t forget to include the # sign.

James will share with us a juicy passage from his best-selling novel, The Palace of Varieties.  I am currently deep into reading this brilliantly smutty work myself.  And I have James and his generous publisher, Cleis Press, to thank for that, don’t cha know.

Be sure to visit James at his MySpace page HERE!

Or his alter ego, Rupert Smith, HERE!

James and I discuss:

  • What the difference might be between erotica and porn.
  • What makes good lit, erotic or otherwise.
  • Writing an erotic novel.
  • Celebrating sexuality in his writing.
  • Humor in erotica; like yeast in bread.
  • Avoiding the formulaic.
  • His sexual heroes.

And like I said, James serves up a juicy bit of his own erotica.

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BE THERE OR BE SQUARE!

Check out The Lick-A-Dee-Split Connection. That’s Dr Dick’s toll free podcast voicemail HOTLINE. Don’t worry people; no one will personally answer the phone. Your message goes directly to voicemail.

Got a question or a comment? Wanna rant or rave? Or maybe you’d just like to talk dirty for a minute or two. Why not get it off your chest! Give Dr Dick a call at (866) 422-5680.

DON’T BE SHY, LET IT FLY!

Look for all my podcasts on iTunes.  You’ll find me in the podcast section, obviously. Just search for Dr Dick Sex Advice. And don’t forget to subscribe.  I wouldn’t want you to miss even one episode.

Today’s Podcast is bought to you by: ROPEX.

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